2016-11-09
2016-11-08
Wisdom words and quotes of: Blood is thicker than water
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Blood is thicker than water |
Blood is thicker than water.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-11-07
2016-11-04
2016-11-03
What biological and chemical processes and chemicals are secreted when we are happy and excited, and can we influence this of how we thinking and being and living?
Hello life coach
What biological and chemical processes and chemicals are secreted when we are happy and excited?
Can we influence the biological and chemical processes in our brain so we secrete these chemicals by our way of thinking and being and living?
Greetings
Remo
Hi Remo
All your organs and cells using biochemical processes to communicate and operate. Your endocrine system uses biochemical processes, and hormones is something that is central to the body and you can influence through both diet and nutrition, physical exercise, physical purification and mental and physical health. Feel - good hormone dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphins can therefore influence in many ways and prevent various diseases, such as depression.
Nervous System
The nervous system and the brain uses electrochemical processes. The nervous system consists of two parts:
Autonomic Nervous System - involuntary controlled
The autonomic nervous system control functions and bodies that are not volitional, such as the heart, liver, stomach ... The autonomic nervous system consists of the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system that counteract each other:
Somatic nervous system - willed controlled
There is somatic system controls the functions of the body that are involuntary.
Energy Medicine
Something that is not accepted and rejected in västerländs medicine but used in österländs medicine and should be mentioned is the idea that you also have an energy body! Ie not just a biochemical body that affects your health. In this energy your body seems Livsenergi! The energy body is not visible but is comprised of clean energy (electromagnetic frequency fields).
In energy medicine (frequency medicine / quantum medicine) are working on methods to prevent and heal disease by processing the energy body (a large energy field that extends beyond the body). Every body cell has its own vibration frequencies and they also communicate with each other through the energy body. Imbalance in the energy body that occurs at the mental and physical diseases can be treated by, inter alia, restore the energy flow. Proper breathing is also considered key to balancing your life energy.
Note:
The energy (life energy), which are discussed in the energy medicine should not be confused with the energy we're talking about in the West dealing with energy intake and energy expenditure, ie calories in and calories out. See energy.
Note:
Life energy, called prana in India, Ki in China and is a concept used in acupuncture, ajurveda, Chinese medicine, acupuncture, reflexology, yoga with his chakra, meditation, etc. In energy medicine one uses often the life energy as an active component. Life-energy is considered in turn affect the body's nervous system and the production of hormones.
The placebo effect
The placebo effect is something that even the traditional medical community recognizes, it is accepted and taking into account its impact. It has been shown that the confidence and expectation we have on our health will be improved actually helps in the healing of the body. The placebo effect is a neurobiological phenomenon and several studies have been done that proves that the placebo effect works.
When testing various new drugs so often used only pure sugar pills in half of the test group, while the rest may have access to the new drug. None of the groups know what you got but just the knowledge and confidence that they have received has shown that even those who receive sugar pills improve their health. Therefore takes this effect into account when to interpret the test results afterwards for the whole group. Ie The confidence that the placebo effect means is an effective factor that raises health overall.
Placebos have been shown to work in conjunction with both the pain, ingestion of morphine as depression etc. The placebo effect has been able to be as high as about 30-60% of what is achieved with the comparative product after the studies done in different contexts, which means that the tank and the power of imagination is strong and active in recovery. For example, when a patient believes he received a medicine for pain as the body's own pain-relieving endorphins activated instead!
Approximately 30% of recovery is by means of the placebo effect! Applies to both treatment and if you got a tablet.
Note
Nocebo effect is the opposite effect of the placebo effect, which demonstrates that people can become much sicker and poorer if they believe that to be the case, especially if the instructions come from an authority - a doctor! Experiments in health care have been done to prove this, including by giving a placebo (saline) for asthma patients with the assertion that the patients will be annoyed in the respiratory system, which then took place for nearly half of the subjects!
Next week you can continue to read here about how your thoughts a raise from and affect your health and well-being in your life.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
What biological and chemical processes and chemicals are secreted when we are happy and excited?
Can we influence the biological and chemical processes in our brain so we secrete these chemicals by our way of thinking and being and living?
Greetings
Remo
Hi Remo
All your organs and cells using biochemical processes to communicate and operate. Your endocrine system uses biochemical processes, and hormones is something that is central to the body and you can influence through both diet and nutrition, physical exercise, physical purification and mental and physical health. Feel - good hormone dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphins can therefore influence in many ways and prevent various diseases, such as depression.
Nervous System
The nervous system and the brain uses electrochemical processes. The nervous system consists of two parts:
Autonomic Nervous System - involuntary controlled
The autonomic nervous system control functions and bodies that are not volitional, such as the heart, liver, stomach ... The autonomic nervous system consists of the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system that counteract each other:
- Sympathetic nervous system - energy-intensive documents (achievement and struggle). The sympathetic nervous system is activated at the achievement, struggle and flight, pressure and stress. The body tightened, heart start beating fast, blood pressure increases, pupils dilate, skin cold sweat, digestion ceases. The secretion of glucagon and increases insulin secretion decreases. Adrenaline and noradrenaline and cortisol excreted. Growth increases the sex drive is stimulated.
- Parasympathetic nervous system - energy-saving actions (relaxation). The parasympathetic nervous system is activated at rest and sleep. The heart beats slower, lowering blood pressure, intestinal motor stimulated, digestion stimulated the secretion of insulin increases. Feel-good hormone oxytocin increases. Increases metabolism and the immune system is strengthened. Adrenaline and noradrenaline and cortisol is decreased.
Somatic nervous system - willed controlled
There is somatic system controls the functions of the body that are involuntary.
- Motor nerves. The body movements, movements of the arms and legs, muscle movements.
- Sensory nerves. The body's feelings, skin and muscles emotional bodies.
Energy Medicine
Something that is not accepted and rejected in västerländs medicine but used in österländs medicine and should be mentioned is the idea that you also have an energy body! Ie not just a biochemical body that affects your health. In this energy your body seems Livsenergi! The energy body is not visible but is comprised of clean energy (electromagnetic frequency fields).
In energy medicine (frequency medicine / quantum medicine) are working on methods to prevent and heal disease by processing the energy body (a large energy field that extends beyond the body). Every body cell has its own vibration frequencies and they also communicate with each other through the energy body. Imbalance in the energy body that occurs at the mental and physical diseases can be treated by, inter alia, restore the energy flow. Proper breathing is also considered key to balancing your life energy.
Note:
The energy (life energy), which are discussed in the energy medicine should not be confused with the energy we're talking about in the West dealing with energy intake and energy expenditure, ie calories in and calories out. See energy.
Note:
Life energy, called prana in India, Ki in China and is a concept used in acupuncture, ajurveda, Chinese medicine, acupuncture, reflexology, yoga with his chakra, meditation, etc. In energy medicine one uses often the life energy as an active component. Life-energy is considered in turn affect the body's nervous system and the production of hormones.
The placebo effect
The placebo effect is something that even the traditional medical community recognizes, it is accepted and taking into account its impact. It has been shown that the confidence and expectation we have on our health will be improved actually helps in the healing of the body. The placebo effect is a neurobiological phenomenon and several studies have been done that proves that the placebo effect works.
When testing various new drugs so often used only pure sugar pills in half of the test group, while the rest may have access to the new drug. None of the groups know what you got but just the knowledge and confidence that they have received has shown that even those who receive sugar pills improve their health. Therefore takes this effect into account when to interpret the test results afterwards for the whole group. Ie The confidence that the placebo effect means is an effective factor that raises health overall.
Placebos have been shown to work in conjunction with both the pain, ingestion of morphine as depression etc. The placebo effect has been able to be as high as about 30-60% of what is achieved with the comparative product after the studies done in different contexts, which means that the tank and the power of imagination is strong and active in recovery. For example, when a patient believes he received a medicine for pain as the body's own pain-relieving endorphins activated instead!
Approximately 30% of recovery is by means of the placebo effect! Applies to both treatment and if you got a tablet.
Note
Nocebo effect is the opposite effect of the placebo effect, which demonstrates that people can become much sicker and poorer if they believe that to be the case, especially if the instructions come from an authority - a doctor! Experiments in health care have been done to prove this, including by giving a placebo (saline) for asthma patients with the assertion that the patients will be annoyed in the respiratory system, which then took place for nearly half of the subjects!
Next week you can continue to read here about how your thoughts a raise from and affect your health and well-being in your life.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-11-02
2016-11-01
Wisdom words and quotes of: Do not bite the hand that feeds you
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Do not bite the hand that feeds you |
Do not bite the hand that feeds you.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-10-31
2016-10-28
2016-10-27
How can I find a inner peace in me and with my self, and at my life?
Hi coach
I realize that I have to start over and I need to find myself. Would like to go into myself and become enlightened, feel the spirit or God in me or just ... well, find peace and find myself. How should I do?
Should I eat something special? Know that many Buddhists eat very little and fast to find its interior. I want to learn to meditate but how do I start? Should I go for long walks in nature or visit a church to find the soul or?
I need your advice! How will I become calm, feeling good, travel within myself and feel the community with the world? All tips are welcome but I'm already a bit inside the meditation and yoga, I think. Something that also gives me energy! Should I surround myself of plants, incense and stones?
I am hopeful and grateful for your help and your response to my question here about how to find inner peace in me.
August
Hi August
You can be whatever you requires you to be!
Many believe that change is impossible, others take it for granted. Life shapes us through the years so arises easily stagnation so well thought action. We believe we often know best, but see everything as more often than not with clear eyes on ourselves. However, we are very quick to find flaws in others. Self-reflection becomes scarce.
If we are to improve our physical condition as this is done preferably by that we start exercising regularly and methodically. In the long term so improved our results and we must take advantage of our personal commitment. Why should it be different with our personal inner development, of course, we can use similar methods to achieve mental and physical health! But this is often our eternal self-defense in which says to us that it is either not possible or that nothing should be done!
Somewhere calling hopefully finally a warning bell that makes us awake and with a self-reflective smile might be able to laugh at ourselves, our personal problems, our shortcomings ... this might actually be a good start for change.
Why not come to self-awareness and courage to let go and start physical exercise your senses in the same way as you exercise your muscles and your body!
Mental health - to see the whole picture!
As a human, you have a free will to choose! You can choose how you deal with certain situations that occur, if you should interpret these positive, neutral or negative, if you want to expose yourself to them again or not! In the same way it is with how you look at yourself! You can actually choose whether you want to create confidence in yourself, create self-love and build a good self-esteem, or if you want to see more of yourself based on all the problems that you experience and that creates restrictions in your personality.
Several factors have been shown to affect your mental health: good diet and nutrition, and active physical exercise affects how you feel and indirectly your psyche, this is scientifically proven! Diseases also affect your psyche. Depression is almost twice as common in women than men, why? poor sleep, stress, imbalance in the hormone system also affects our personality, such as dopamine and serotonin are two important hormones for our well being.
Your personality also influences how you feel! Your personal preferences, your genes, including social factors are involved in shaping your personality. You have a personality, but you can also change your personality, it evolves all the time, depending on your experience and how you interact with your surroundings! By learning how to manage your thoughts can you practically actually change you and achieve better health!
Self-esteem! Decide to enjoy yourself! See your benefits! Release fear!
Many spiritual and religious traditions also believe that we consist of a deeper form of I of more eternal nature (the divine nature). This eternal I have many names, depending on the religious and spiritual school: the self, the soul, spirit soul, our inner eternal self, etc. In many developing personality teachings refers to this more divine inner self in personal development, in contrast to our outer ego that would correspond to the more changeable personality! Whatever you think about it, there are several practical methods readily available to achieve better psychological and mental health.
To begin to observe and understand your thoughts and practical use various methods to change your thinking is the key to better mental and physical health. If you are interested in learning more about different methods for active change management, you can use the methods described here: CBT - cognitive behavioral therapy, Mindfulness, Visualization, Affirmations, yoga, meditation, breathing exercises and mental training.
Thoughts that habit patterns!
95% percent of all the decisions we take, we do out of habit and without reflection. Ie only 5% of our decisions are fully aware! This according axiologerna studying how we think. According to them, they think you and I are about 40,000 thoughts per day! and there are more than 15 million different thought patterns! By learning to understand your thought patterns and even dare to change those who are not well aware, you have much of a success! By becoming more aware of your thoughts, you can also learn how to check different situations better, take the right decisions and develop to your full potential!
How are you thinking? What choices do you do in different situations? Do you think, and often feel the same way in similar situations? Have you changed your mind, depending on the different experiences? Do you often think negatively? How do you keep the negative thoughts away? you can see something positive in what may appear to be negative? Would another person interpret the situation differently? Are you willing to change you?
Resistance and habits!
At work, in social relationships, in practice, well in almost any context, it is some form of exercise, exercise, exercise, first of all to achieve good results as the knowledge, understanding and balance. When knowledge is acquired then, however, it significantly easier to maintain and improve the knowledge! Why should it be different with the mental and psychological health?
Resistance and failure really gives great opportunities for awakening and change, so although it may seem difficult with the potential to add value to you in the long run by creating insight and opportunity for change.
When are you comfortable! Can you do something different! What can you learn from your mistakes? How does your love out? When are you most selfish? Lets you often emotions control you? Have you tried to use your mind more conscious in a recurring situation successfully? Are you willing to work more actively with your psyche?
If you think you can not handle your undertakings. What are the chances that you fail, do you think?
Change your management!
Your environment affects you, and your life has influenced you so far! But the biggest reason for the way you feel affects you actually yourself! This is by humbly begin to learn to understand how you function as a person, how you think, feel and act, why it is as it is right now! which together will hopefully lead to the conclusion that you start your own change!
We are all pretty lost, scared and feel often unsuccessful in many situations. There is really nothing strange about that, because we're very similar, deep down, as you or I are not alone, and you do not take your failure as serious, but can choose to see them as lessons and input to something you can change the that you simply think it's time to move on ... and it is glorious with all change is that you will fall down and do a reboot now and then, such is life ...
You are the center of your own life and no one else! You are free to think and feel what you want!
Are you willing to start exercising your mental and psychic abilities regularly now? Read more about it next week here.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I realize that I have to start over and I need to find myself. Would like to go into myself and become enlightened, feel the spirit or God in me or just ... well, find peace and find myself. How should I do?
Should I eat something special? Know that many Buddhists eat very little and fast to find its interior. I want to learn to meditate but how do I start? Should I go for long walks in nature or visit a church to find the soul or?
I need your advice! How will I become calm, feeling good, travel within myself and feel the community with the world? All tips are welcome but I'm already a bit inside the meditation and yoga, I think. Something that also gives me energy! Should I surround myself of plants, incense and stones?
I am hopeful and grateful for your help and your response to my question here about how to find inner peace in me.
August
Hi August
You can be whatever you requires you to be!
Many believe that change is impossible, others take it for granted. Life shapes us through the years so arises easily stagnation so well thought action. We believe we often know best, but see everything as more often than not with clear eyes on ourselves. However, we are very quick to find flaws in others. Self-reflection becomes scarce.
If we are to improve our physical condition as this is done preferably by that we start exercising regularly and methodically. In the long term so improved our results and we must take advantage of our personal commitment. Why should it be different with our personal inner development, of course, we can use similar methods to achieve mental and physical health! But this is often our eternal self-defense in which says to us that it is either not possible or that nothing should be done!
Somewhere calling hopefully finally a warning bell that makes us awake and with a self-reflective smile might be able to laugh at ourselves, our personal problems, our shortcomings ... this might actually be a good start for change.
Why not come to self-awareness and courage to let go and start physical exercise your senses in the same way as you exercise your muscles and your body!
Mental health - to see the whole picture!
As a human, you have a free will to choose! You can choose how you deal with certain situations that occur, if you should interpret these positive, neutral or negative, if you want to expose yourself to them again or not! In the same way it is with how you look at yourself! You can actually choose whether you want to create confidence in yourself, create self-love and build a good self-esteem, or if you want to see more of yourself based on all the problems that you experience and that creates restrictions in your personality.
Several factors have been shown to affect your mental health: good diet and nutrition, and active physical exercise affects how you feel and indirectly your psyche, this is scientifically proven! Diseases also affect your psyche. Depression is almost twice as common in women than men, why? poor sleep, stress, imbalance in the hormone system also affects our personality, such as dopamine and serotonin are two important hormones for our well being.
Your personality also influences how you feel! Your personal preferences, your genes, including social factors are involved in shaping your personality. You have a personality, but you can also change your personality, it evolves all the time, depending on your experience and how you interact with your surroundings! By learning how to manage your thoughts can you practically actually change you and achieve better health!
Self-esteem! Decide to enjoy yourself! See your benefits! Release fear!
Many spiritual and religious traditions also believe that we consist of a deeper form of I of more eternal nature (the divine nature). This eternal I have many names, depending on the religious and spiritual school: the self, the soul, spirit soul, our inner eternal self, etc. In many developing personality teachings refers to this more divine inner self in personal development, in contrast to our outer ego that would correspond to the more changeable personality! Whatever you think about it, there are several practical methods readily available to achieve better psychological and mental health.
To begin to observe and understand your thoughts and practical use various methods to change your thinking is the key to better mental and physical health. If you are interested in learning more about different methods for active change management, you can use the methods described here: CBT - cognitive behavioral therapy, Mindfulness, Visualization, Affirmations, yoga, meditation, breathing exercises and mental training.
Thoughts that habit patterns!
95% percent of all the decisions we take, we do out of habit and without reflection. Ie only 5% of our decisions are fully aware! This according axiologerna studying how we think. According to them, they think you and I are about 40,000 thoughts per day! and there are more than 15 million different thought patterns! By learning to understand your thought patterns and even dare to change those who are not well aware, you have much of a success! By becoming more aware of your thoughts, you can also learn how to check different situations better, take the right decisions and develop to your full potential!
How are you thinking? What choices do you do in different situations? Do you think, and often feel the same way in similar situations? Have you changed your mind, depending on the different experiences? Do you often think negatively? How do you keep the negative thoughts away? you can see something positive in what may appear to be negative? Would another person interpret the situation differently? Are you willing to change you?
Resistance and habits!
At work, in social relationships, in practice, well in almost any context, it is some form of exercise, exercise, exercise, first of all to achieve good results as the knowledge, understanding and balance. When knowledge is acquired then, however, it significantly easier to maintain and improve the knowledge! Why should it be different with the mental and psychological health?
Resistance and failure really gives great opportunities for awakening and change, so although it may seem difficult with the potential to add value to you in the long run by creating insight and opportunity for change.
When are you comfortable! Can you do something different! What can you learn from your mistakes? How does your love out? When are you most selfish? Lets you often emotions control you? Have you tried to use your mind more conscious in a recurring situation successfully? Are you willing to work more actively with your psyche?
If you think you can not handle your undertakings. What are the chances that you fail, do you think?
Change your management!
Your environment affects you, and your life has influenced you so far! But the biggest reason for the way you feel affects you actually yourself! This is by humbly begin to learn to understand how you function as a person, how you think, feel and act, why it is as it is right now! which together will hopefully lead to the conclusion that you start your own change!
We are all pretty lost, scared and feel often unsuccessful in many situations. There is really nothing strange about that, because we're very similar, deep down, as you or I are not alone, and you do not take your failure as serious, but can choose to see them as lessons and input to something you can change the that you simply think it's time to move on ... and it is glorious with all change is that you will fall down and do a reboot now and then, such is life ...
You are the center of your own life and no one else! You are free to think and feel what you want!
Are you willing to start exercising your mental and psychic abilities regularly now? Read more about it next week here.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-10-26
2016-10-25
Wisdom words and quotes of: Only dead fish follow the water stream
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Only dead fish follow the water stream |
Wisdom words and quotes of:
Only dead fish follow the water stream.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-10-24
2016-10-21
2016-10-20
8 tips on how you can deal with performance anxiety easy
- Write down a small list of what you are most pleased with in yourself.
- Take for you when others give you praise or say positive things about you.
- Ask yourself every day: What did I do today that I can feel satisfied with?
- If you think negative thoughts: Stop and think if they can look at things from another more positive point of view.
- Do not compare yourself with others. We are all different good at different things. We also talk differently about what we do, how much we are studying, practicing, and how we feel - some adding and subtracting. It is almost impossible to see the whole picture of another man, and impossible to know what actually is "true".
- Think what you want.
- Dare to make mistakes. Think of it as the opportunity to practice what is difficult: What went wrong and what can I learn for next time? I was able to influence the situation, or was it the circumstances that were beyond my control?
- Drop the idea of being perfect. Who is it that decides what is perfect or not?
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2016-10-19
2016-10-18
Wisdom words and quotes of: Treat others as you want to be treated
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| Treat others as you want to be treated |
Treat others as you want to be treated.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-10-17
2016-10-14
2016-10-13
I have performance anxiety, and what can I do about it?
Hello Mr. life coach
I have all my life been difficult to perform when I feel I have expectations of me, both from others and myself. Therefore, my background has become very jittery.
I can handle most situations well and gets good reviews from the environment, good grades from school and employers, etc., but I always come to a point where I feel that it is becoming increasingly difficult to feel that what I do is good enough and everything feels overwhelming. The feelings do I become paralyzed, I can no longer perform that I ever managed. I begin to think illogically can not draw the right conclusions, feeling totally ignorant. Since I do not take me past this will I have, to survive with honor intact, to change tracks in life, to start over. But the older I get the whole thing becomes increasingly difficult.
Now I stand for the second time in my life with a nearly completed training and can not handle the last moment, despite all earlier gone great and I always been among the best in class. Furthermore, I am newly married and are afraid this will ruin our relationship and our life together. Since I have no income right now, I can not pay for an expensive treatment with a psychologist. I do not know how I should proceed?
Hoping for help from you Mr. life coach!
Anja
Hi Anja
Performance anxiety is fear of failure or fear that you should not fail to live up to their own or others' expectations. It does not count as a psychiatric diagnosis, but one can still feel mentally bad if you have performance anxiety.
When you have performance anxiety you feel afraid to be reviewed and assessed and then being caught by not being good enough. You feel too afraid of being humiliated if it would happen.
Performance anxiety is a feeling and is very rarely linked to the one actually performs. There are few who actually perform worse for their performance anxiety. It's usually about how you yourself perceive and evaluate their performance. Man stuck in negative thinking, rehashing and disparage the achievement gained and find it difficult to feel happy and proud of what you do. A person who has performance anxiety often sets high standards for himself and his accomplishments. Many are perfectionists.
Situations when you can have performance anxiety may include:
Sometimes performance anxiety actually be a positive thing. It can make you that collects and prepares more so that you really manage to perform better.
There are several things that characterize performance anxiety:
One way to get help is to contact the school counselor or a youth. Often, some supportive calls help. They can often provide good advice on how to do and think in order to manage their performance anxiety.
You do not have access to this above. Then you turn to any life coach like me here, and to get private consultation and advisory therapy for your performance anxiety.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I have all my life been difficult to perform when I feel I have expectations of me, both from others and myself. Therefore, my background has become very jittery.
I can handle most situations well and gets good reviews from the environment, good grades from school and employers, etc., but I always come to a point where I feel that it is becoming increasingly difficult to feel that what I do is good enough and everything feels overwhelming. The feelings do I become paralyzed, I can no longer perform that I ever managed. I begin to think illogically can not draw the right conclusions, feeling totally ignorant. Since I do not take me past this will I have, to survive with honor intact, to change tracks in life, to start over. But the older I get the whole thing becomes increasingly difficult.
Now I stand for the second time in my life with a nearly completed training and can not handle the last moment, despite all earlier gone great and I always been among the best in class. Furthermore, I am newly married and are afraid this will ruin our relationship and our life together. Since I have no income right now, I can not pay for an expensive treatment with a psychologist. I do not know how I should proceed?
Hoping for help from you Mr. life coach!
Anja
Hi Anja
Performance anxiety is fear of failure or fear that you should not fail to live up to their own or others' expectations. It does not count as a psychiatric diagnosis, but one can still feel mentally bad if you have performance anxiety.
When you have performance anxiety you feel afraid to be reviewed and assessed and then being caught by not being good enough. You feel too afraid of being humiliated if it would happen.
Performance anxiety is a feeling and is very rarely linked to the one actually performs. There are few who actually perform worse for their performance anxiety. It's usually about how you yourself perceive and evaluate their performance. Man stuck in negative thinking, rehashing and disparage the achievement gained and find it difficult to feel happy and proud of what you do. A person who has performance anxiety often sets high standards for himself and his accomplishments. Many are perfectionists.
Situations when you can have performance anxiety may include:
- Before the tests or presentations in schools
- When writing an essay or similar
- In connection with such music, dance or theater performances
- When athletes, for example for competitions and matches
- In situations when you must show itself, for example, to have sex.
Sometimes performance anxiety actually be a positive thing. It can make you that collects and prepares more so that you really manage to perform better.
There are several things that characterize performance anxiety:
- The body reacts. One can, for example, palpitations, increased heart rate, sweating, trembling, knowing that you have difficulty breathing, feel nausea or panic feelings.
- Negative and exaggerated thoughts of failure and evaluated negatively by others. The tanks are available before, during and after the situation in which a performance.
- Anticipation Anxiety before situations where you need to perform. It conjures up many possible negative scenarios of how bad it will get.
- Ältande the situation when you have achieved something. One can dwell long afterwards and get anguished thoughts on how to be perceived. The negative thoughts weighed seldom or never by positive thoughts.
- Avoid situations that evoke anxiety and fear. It may feel good for the moment, but do you never get to try their abilities or learn to manage anxiety. Then comes the fear, and the strong fantasies of horror scenarios remain. This may in turn lead to begin avoiding more and more situations and thus be limited in life and existence.
Support and help
It is natural to feel some anxiety, fear or anxiety in situations when to perform, for example, for a test, a presentation or an important game. Often relieves the feelings the more times you expose themselves to situations that feel hard. See our list of tips on what you can do to manage performance anxiety:
But if you have such a strong fear and anxiety that you start avoiding more and more situations and limit themselves in life, you may need to seek support and help. Maybe stay home from school ends meet friends or doing activities that you really enjoy to fear and anxiety take over your thoughts.
One way to get help is to contact the school counselor or a youth. Often, some supportive calls help. They can often provide good advice on how to do and think in order to manage their performance anxiety.
You do not have access to this above. Then you turn to any life coach like me here, and to get private consultation and advisory therapy for your performance anxiety.
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2016-10-12
2016-10-11
Wisdom words and quotes of: Parting is to die a little
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Parting is to die a little |
Parting is to die a little.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-10-10
2016-10-07
2016-10-06
Can I have different roles with different friends, and what different friendship roles can I have?
Hello
Can I have different roles with different friends, and what different friendship roles can I have?
I've thought a lot about this. For it is very different what kind of role I have and when I'm with different friends.
Greeting
Macus
Hi Marcus
What kind of friend are you? And what does that say about you? And these five roles are common in friendships.
The organizer
Planner who keeps track of birthdays, buying gifts, and juggle thousands of little practical details.
If you have this role ...
So you're probably Talented Annika in many contexts and can quite often have chosen the role because you need confirmation from others.
If you tire of the role you will be prepared to miss out on the group's immediate estimate, and the most important thing you can in that case have to do is to learn to be a little more passive.
Little sister
With childlike charm and a certain amount of confusion avoids effectively be the one who takes responsibility.
If you have this role ...
So, it is a subtle matter, you do not have to take responsibility, but will still always be with. In the long run, this is probably still a role that becomes boring. It is one thing to have this role when one is 17 and the youngest in the office. It's not as fun when the 42nd
The entertainer
Constantly a laugh ready, always a pinch of irony in his hand salting of everyday life. The Entertainer is expected to be the one who can always amuse us.
If you have this role ...
Then you have the "job" to ensure that it does not become too tense in the group by diverting attention from the conflict into something playful. Are you even have a little afraid of conflict?
To constantly have this role can ultimately also be perceived as a bit frivolous, because you so rarely show up serious.
The therapist
Listen, lend his shoulder and says, wise, warm things so that the rest of us feel a little better.
If you have this role ...
So are you a person who sees it as important to be caring and helping others. The risk is just that you forget yourself on the road ...
The diplomat
This is a very popular member of the group, with major talents to intercept conflict and to intervene and mediate.
If you have this role ...
So you are often a first-children who have developed a habit in tough negotiations. In the long run, it is a role that has sapped your strength, right here to constantly adapt mediation strategy and not freely express their own opinions. It can make you feel a little fake as a person.
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Can I have different roles with different friends, and what different friendship roles can I have?
I've thought a lot about this. For it is very different what kind of role I have and when I'm with different friends.
Greeting
Macus
Hi Marcus
What kind of friend are you? And what does that say about you? And these five roles are common in friendships.
The organizer
Planner who keeps track of birthdays, buying gifts, and juggle thousands of little practical details.
If you have this role ...
So you're probably Talented Annika in many contexts and can quite often have chosen the role because you need confirmation from others.
If you tire of the role you will be prepared to miss out on the group's immediate estimate, and the most important thing you can in that case have to do is to learn to be a little more passive.
Little sister
With childlike charm and a certain amount of confusion avoids effectively be the one who takes responsibility.
If you have this role ...
So, it is a subtle matter, you do not have to take responsibility, but will still always be with. In the long run, this is probably still a role that becomes boring. It is one thing to have this role when one is 17 and the youngest in the office. It's not as fun when the 42nd
The entertainer
Constantly a laugh ready, always a pinch of irony in his hand salting of everyday life. The Entertainer is expected to be the one who can always amuse us.
If you have this role ...
Then you have the "job" to ensure that it does not become too tense in the group by diverting attention from the conflict into something playful. Are you even have a little afraid of conflict?
To constantly have this role can ultimately also be perceived as a bit frivolous, because you so rarely show up serious.
The therapist
Listen, lend his shoulder and says, wise, warm things so that the rest of us feel a little better.
If you have this role ...
So are you a person who sees it as important to be caring and helping others. The risk is just that you forget yourself on the road ...
The diplomat
This is a very popular member of the group, with major talents to intercept conflict and to intervene and mediate.
If you have this role ...
So you are often a first-children who have developed a habit in tough negotiations. In the long run, it is a role that has sapped your strength, right here to constantly adapt mediation strategy and not freely express their own opinions. It can make you feel a little fake as a person.
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2016-10-05
2016-10-04
Wisdom words and quotes of: Of the damage you become wise
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Of the damage you become wise |
Of the damage you become wise.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-10-03
2016-09-30
2016-09-29
I can not understand why I feel so alone, and what this loneliness feeling can depend on when I am with my own friends nowadays?
Hello life counselor
I feel so alone when I am with my own friends nowadays.
I can not understand why I feel so alone, and what this loneliness feeling can depend on?
Greetings
Liselott
Hello Liselott
You feel alone in your friendships. Maybe because you have had a role in your real friendship bonds that you do not feel comfortable with.
Amanda says that she usually get the position of the listener in their companionship.
- And it's a role that I have begun to tire of. I have several friends who are strong and forward and talk a lot about themselves, and the relationship with them, I find it difficult to break in and take a seat. It tends to be that I get tired of waiting for them to ask "how are you then?"; I fall silent and listen, and try to solve their problems instead. I'm certainly tired of it, but we've been friends for so long now. These roles are cemented as well.
My friends, however, would probably describe me as a kind person who is calm, quiet and listens well, and do not need so much space.
I know I can not expect them to wake up and see that I have more demands on our friendship. I have to start asking yourself the requirements, she says.
Ulrika tells us in turn that she often gets the role of "organizer" in groups.
- Sure, I like to fix and organize things, but I had not imagined that I would get this role full time. I took on the responsibility for our joint Friday breakfasts at work. Since then it has become who I am planner, I expected to stay in everything from purchasing things from IKEA, to know the coffee machine that will be the best in the kitchen, or remember how often should water the flowers, she says.
Becoming aware of the role that you usually take in friendships is the first step towards better friendships!
If you do not feel comfortable with your role, and not feel that you have permission to be "yourself", so it may be the reason why you feel you have too few genuine friends.
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I feel so alone when I am with my own friends nowadays.
I can not understand why I feel so alone, and what this loneliness feeling can depend on?
Greetings
Liselott
Hello Liselott
You feel alone in your friendships. Maybe because you have had a role in your real friendship bonds that you do not feel comfortable with.
Amanda says that she usually get the position of the listener in their companionship.
- And it's a role that I have begun to tire of. I have several friends who are strong and forward and talk a lot about themselves, and the relationship with them, I find it difficult to break in and take a seat. It tends to be that I get tired of waiting for them to ask "how are you then?"; I fall silent and listen, and try to solve their problems instead. I'm certainly tired of it, but we've been friends for so long now. These roles are cemented as well.
My friends, however, would probably describe me as a kind person who is calm, quiet and listens well, and do not need so much space.
I know I can not expect them to wake up and see that I have more demands on our friendship. I have to start asking yourself the requirements, she says.
Ulrika tells us in turn that she often gets the role of "organizer" in groups.
- Sure, I like to fix and organize things, but I had not imagined that I would get this role full time. I took on the responsibility for our joint Friday breakfasts at work. Since then it has become who I am planner, I expected to stay in everything from purchasing things from IKEA, to know the coffee machine that will be the best in the kitchen, or remember how often should water the flowers, she says.
Becoming aware of the role that you usually take in friendships is the first step towards better friendships!
If you do not feel comfortable with your role, and not feel that you have permission to be "yourself", so it may be the reason why you feel you have too few genuine friends.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-09-28
2016-09-27
Wisdom words and quotes of: Of children and fools, you get to hear the real truth
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Of children and fools, you get to hear the real truth |
Of children and fools, you get to hear the real truth.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-09-26
2016-09-23
2016-09-22
Do you know what this feeling i have of loneliness I can depend on Mr. life coach
Hello Mr. life coach
I feel very lonely sometimes, even though I have very many friends.
Do you know what this feeling of loneliness can depend on?
With friendly greetings
Olga
Hey Olga
It is not unusual that we can feel the loneliness that we actually have friends.
Kajsa says she can often feel misunderstood by his friends.
- People often tend to take me as a happy little shit. I am the one who is expected to laugh and take life a breeze. Personally, I feel like a serious person who may indeed be close to laughter, but that definitely stands with both feet on the ground.
It can be a pain when I feel a little depressed, "but come Kajsa, you who usually makes all warm and happy", people say.
I also read a lot of books and I'm interested in developing country issues. It seems surprising part, as if I would be terminally stupid or something! I think it's because most people see me as a sociable person. They do not think that I have a very great need to just sit alone and read, she says.
Loneliness Feelings can thus involve you no longer feel comfortable with the role you have been in friendly relations.
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I feel very lonely sometimes, even though I have very many friends.
Do you know what this feeling of loneliness can depend on?
With friendly greetings
Olga
Hey Olga
It is not unusual that we can feel the loneliness that we actually have friends.
Kajsa says she can often feel misunderstood by his friends.
- People often tend to take me as a happy little shit. I am the one who is expected to laugh and take life a breeze. Personally, I feel like a serious person who may indeed be close to laughter, but that definitely stands with both feet on the ground.
It can be a pain when I feel a little depressed, "but come Kajsa, you who usually makes all warm and happy", people say.
I also read a lot of books and I'm interested in developing country issues. It seems surprising part, as if I would be terminally stupid or something! I think it's because most people see me as a sociable person. They do not think that I have a very great need to just sit alone and read, she says.
Loneliness Feelings can thus involve you no longer feel comfortable with the role you have been in friendly relations.
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2016-09-21
2016-09-20
Wisdom words and quotes of: Work promotes health and prosperity, and prevents many occasions of sin
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Work promotes health and prosperity, and prevents many occasions of sin |
Work promotes health and prosperity, and prevents many occasions of sin.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-09-19
2016-09-16
2016-09-15
Why are so many people alone and feel lonely today I wonder?
Hello life coach
I have a question that you probably can answer.
Why are so many people alone and feel lonely today?
Thank you for your response to my question in advance!
Sincerely
Dolly
Hi Dolly
"New solitude" call it sometimes, when in the media and debate forums to discuss how socially passive technological progress has made us.
We Facebooking, tweeting, emailing and texting instead of meeting face to face.
We content ourselves with friendship served to display call dinnerware, perhaps because we think it's either this, or not to be "seen" at all?
The explanation for our so-called nyensamhet is that we are moving more than ever.
Women on average are expected to make it twelve times in their lifetime, according to statistics from Statistics Sweden. An average man has time because of their shorter life "only" eleven.
When our friends move
But even that which is his hometown faithful life can experience the social life suddenly go from summer to autumn, when the friends move or grow out of one the other way.
Christian explains that after ten years in Stockholm moved back to his hometown and thought that the friends would probably not be a big deal. He had been so easy to make friends before. He was not an oddball. Additionally lived there surely remain friends from the past ...
But it would appear that the vast majority had moved away from their home, just like him, and at first he tried therefore to keep alive the friendships he had made in Stockholm.
- But they disintegrated in just a few months when not that natural touch was there anymore. It's really scary so fast it went, he says.
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I have a question that you probably can answer.
Why are so many people alone and feel lonely today?
Thank you for your response to my question in advance!
Sincerely
Dolly
Hi Dolly
"New solitude" call it sometimes, when in the media and debate forums to discuss how socially passive technological progress has made us.
We Facebooking, tweeting, emailing and texting instead of meeting face to face.
We content ourselves with friendship served to display call dinnerware, perhaps because we think it's either this, or not to be "seen" at all?
The explanation for our so-called nyensamhet is that we are moving more than ever.
Women on average are expected to make it twelve times in their lifetime, according to statistics from Statistics Sweden. An average man has time because of their shorter life "only" eleven.
When our friends move
But even that which is his hometown faithful life can experience the social life suddenly go from summer to autumn, when the friends move or grow out of one the other way.
Christian explains that after ten years in Stockholm moved back to his hometown and thought that the friends would probably not be a big deal. He had been so easy to make friends before. He was not an oddball. Additionally lived there surely remain friends from the past ...
But it would appear that the vast majority had moved away from their home, just like him, and at first he tried therefore to keep alive the friendships he had made in Stockholm.
- But they disintegrated in just a few months when not that natural touch was there anymore. It's really scary so fast it went, he says.
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2016-09-14
2016-09-13
Wisdom words and quotes of: Angry cats get torn skins
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Angry cats get torn skins |
Angry cats get torn skins.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-09-12
2016-09-09
2016-09-08
I feel confused and my question are what real friendship is, and how do I know when we are real friends? Here are 8 tips and answers for those who want to find new friends!
Hello Mr. life coach
I often feel confused about how I feel when I'm with different people that I meet.
So I wonder what is real friendship? How do I know we are real friends?
Grateful for an answer to my question here.
Mariam
Hi Miriam
It is easy to be pompous and a little romantic strung when you talk about friendship.
Perhaps you're thinking that true friends are those who, like just take you. You can pick up where you left off, though you have not seen for several months. And when you first met, I knew both of you at once that just the two of you would become good friends ...
It may be just such exaggerated expectations of friendship behind you actually feel rather lonely today ...
Lillian B Rubin, American social psychologist and psychotherapist based in San Francisco, is a world renowned expert on friendship. She hits a happy kind of "everyday friendship", as we have with colleagues at work, or with a workout buddy as we jump in pace with. "All these people that we are a bit conciliatory call 'familiar' also has a great value in life," she says.
Familiarize living is as important as soul mates
Actually, we should not compare them with each other or the rate much. We simply need all kinds of friends. Many times, every-day relations develop into a more intimate friendship relationship later. Some friendships will take several years to mature up, but could then, on the other hand, keeping the longer, perhaps for life.
Hard to know if one's friends "for real"
Complicating friendships is that it is quite difficult to know if they really have become friends or not.
When Lillian B Rubin did interviews and followed up friendships threads across acquaintance circuits, so she discovered that the entire 64 percent not at all mentioned the person they themselves had said was their best or close friend. 64% of your friends see you, maybe not as a friend at all. Horrible thought!
Should we go back to the primitive of friendship and require mixed blood and two tightly compressed thumbs? Or is it perhaps time to see the friendship in a new way? Perhaps as a mood we are in, and that no other more than we can tell whether it is genuine or not?
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I often feel confused about how I feel when I'm with different people that I meet.
So I wonder what is real friendship? How do I know we are real friends?
Grateful for an answer to my question here.
Mariam
Hi Miriam
It is easy to be pompous and a little romantic strung when you talk about friendship.
Perhaps you're thinking that true friends are those who, like just take you. You can pick up where you left off, though you have not seen for several months. And when you first met, I knew both of you at once that just the two of you would become good friends ...
It may be just such exaggerated expectations of friendship behind you actually feel rather lonely today ...
Lillian B Rubin, American social psychologist and psychotherapist based in San Francisco, is a world renowned expert on friendship. She hits a happy kind of "everyday friendship", as we have with colleagues at work, or with a workout buddy as we jump in pace with. "All these people that we are a bit conciliatory call 'familiar' also has a great value in life," she says.
Familiarize living is as important as soul mates
Actually, we should not compare them with each other or the rate much. We simply need all kinds of friends. Many times, every-day relations develop into a more intimate friendship relationship later. Some friendships will take several years to mature up, but could then, on the other hand, keeping the longer, perhaps for life.
Hard to know if one's friends "for real"
Complicating friendships is that it is quite difficult to know if they really have become friends or not.
When Lillian B Rubin did interviews and followed up friendships threads across acquaintance circuits, so she discovered that the entire 64 percent not at all mentioned the person they themselves had said was their best or close friend. 64% of your friends see you, maybe not as a friend at all. Horrible thought!
Should we go back to the primitive of friendship and require mixed blood and two tightly compressed thumbs? Or is it perhaps time to see the friendship in a new way? Perhaps as a mood we are in, and that no other more than we can tell whether it is genuine or not?
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-09-07
2016-09-06
Wisdom words and quotes of: Attack is the best defense
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Attack is the best defense |
Attack is the best defense.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-09-05
2016-09-02
2016-09-01
Do you feel alone? Here are 4 reasons to loneliness, and 5 strategies against loneliness for you
Hi coach
I feel so lonely.
I have no friends left and now I feel very lonely, and it has gone so far in my loneliness so that I have now lost me completely, so I write to you here now.
I hope you can help me to tell me how I can find back on the road again, and so I get new friends again.
Richard
Hi Richard
Do you feel alone? You're not alone! Loneliness is very common and most people feel lonely at some point in life. In this article, we review what loneliness is, the causes of loneliness and how to handle it.
What exactly is loneliness?
Loneliness is a feeling of dissatisfaction, and that something is missing, that arise when you do not have the degree of social contact that you would like to have. Everyone can feel alone now and then, but there are also many who feel loneliness most of the time. It is customary to divide the loneliness in two different groups, social loneliness and emotional loneliness.
Social loneliness
Social loneliness means that you lack a social network, you feel lonely because you do not have any (or as many as you would like) friends, work mates, family members or relatives to spend time with. There are those who have a rich social life on the job, but no friends at leisure, and they are those who feel lonely at work / at school but have friends and family to spend time with their spare time. The feeling of loneliness It is not based on the number of friends, but if you feel satisfied with their social network, or if you miss more people to socialize or interact with. One can sit in a basement, and never talk to anyone and still not feel lonely.
Emotional loneliness
Emotional loneliness occurs when you lack a deep relationship, for example, when you miss someone to really talk to, someone you can tell everything to and / or someone you know loves one for who they are. This sort of loneliness is common to feel even if you have many people to socialize with. I have heard many people describe it as they stand in the middle of a party with a bunch of good friends and acquaintances around them, but they still feel the loneliest in the world. For many guys can feel superficial interaction with the kid gang, and they lack someone to have a deeper relationship with. In this situation many longs for a girlfriend, who they think can fulfill the need for emotional intimacy.
The causes of loneliness
Loneliness can be caused by many different things, and often it may be several reasons that combined creates great loneliness. Generally, one can say that loneliness is caused by any of these four categories:
1. Deficiencies in relationships
Deficiencies in relationships can occur when you do not have any or have relationships with other people, when you feel an outsider or when forced into isolation because they become ostracized or offset (in the family, at work / school, or their friends ).
2. Change in the relationships
Loneliness can also be caused by relationships have changed. It can be anything from a outgrow their friends with age (for example, changing interests, or that one provide family), in order to move from their social network or separating from a partner and suddenly find themselves without both companion and socializing.
3. You see yourself as a single person
If you think of yourself as a single person, it is a property you have that you can not change, so it is often easy to get caught up in loneliness. It may be that seeing yourself as a loner, someone who nobody likes, or as "the eternal single".
4. Lack of social skills
Loneliness may also be due to the lack of social skills, and therefore find it difficult to form relationships with others. It may be that you do not know how to start or continue a conversation with others in a relaxed manner, that it is incredibly shy or even have social phobia, or that you have a negative attitude or even behave badly toward Other.
Strategies to deal with loneliness
Loneliness is like saying something very common and most people feel loneliness in some degree during one or more periods of life. However, there are specific things you can do to manage her loneliness so that it feels better and so that it could ultimately reduce or disappear completely. Here are four successful strategies for dealing with loneliness:
1. Make a rational analysis
Look at your situation from the outside and try to make an objective, rational analysis of the situation. What is your loneliness and what you could do to change your situation? Faced with social situations, whether you experience them as dangerous / annoying, think of the advantages compared to disadvantages and see if the potential gains can motivate you to go there / talk more with people (or what you need to do to reduce loneliness).
2. Stop blame personal characteristics
Try to find what situations or behaviors that create loneliness, instead of thinking "I'm like this as a person." Loneliness is not an innate characteristic, you are not "doomed" to eternal loneliness because of who you are. You can change your situation if you really want and make sure to have the mindset.
3. Make positive to other people
You will not be less lonely if you are bitter and negative towards others. Make sure to keep a positive attitude toward others (even in your own thoughts!), So it is much easier for the people you meet want to have contact or make friends with you.
4. Re-evaluate your loneliness
Instead of seeing loneliness as something negative, you can learn to re-evaluate it and instead appreciate the solitude you have. Being alone can be somewhat useful as it provides a greater opportunity to experience their inner world and to get to know himself.
5. Focus on friendship rather than love
Focus on acquiring or maintaining good friends, instead of putting all our energy on finding The One. It is usually much easier (and with less risk of a broken heart) to find friends than a companion. In addition, to enter into a relationship with a girl with the intention that you will not have to be lonely is not exactly the best breeding ground for love.
Comment if you ever felt alone and what you think your loneliness is, or was due. In this way we can help each other to understand that we are not alone in our solitude.
And good luck to everybody to get rid of your loneliness!
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I feel so lonely.
I have no friends left and now I feel very lonely, and it has gone so far in my loneliness so that I have now lost me completely, so I write to you here now.
I hope you can help me to tell me how I can find back on the road again, and so I get new friends again.
Richard
Hi Richard
Do you feel alone? You're not alone! Loneliness is very common and most people feel lonely at some point in life. In this article, we review what loneliness is, the causes of loneliness and how to handle it.
What exactly is loneliness?
Loneliness is a feeling of dissatisfaction, and that something is missing, that arise when you do not have the degree of social contact that you would like to have. Everyone can feel alone now and then, but there are also many who feel loneliness most of the time. It is customary to divide the loneliness in two different groups, social loneliness and emotional loneliness.
Social loneliness
Social loneliness means that you lack a social network, you feel lonely because you do not have any (or as many as you would like) friends, work mates, family members or relatives to spend time with. There are those who have a rich social life on the job, but no friends at leisure, and they are those who feel lonely at work / at school but have friends and family to spend time with their spare time. The feeling of loneliness It is not based on the number of friends, but if you feel satisfied with their social network, or if you miss more people to socialize or interact with. One can sit in a basement, and never talk to anyone and still not feel lonely.
Emotional loneliness
Emotional loneliness occurs when you lack a deep relationship, for example, when you miss someone to really talk to, someone you can tell everything to and / or someone you know loves one for who they are. This sort of loneliness is common to feel even if you have many people to socialize with. I have heard many people describe it as they stand in the middle of a party with a bunch of good friends and acquaintances around them, but they still feel the loneliest in the world. For many guys can feel superficial interaction with the kid gang, and they lack someone to have a deeper relationship with. In this situation many longs for a girlfriend, who they think can fulfill the need for emotional intimacy.
The causes of loneliness
Loneliness can be caused by many different things, and often it may be several reasons that combined creates great loneliness. Generally, one can say that loneliness is caused by any of these four categories:
1. Deficiencies in relationships
Deficiencies in relationships can occur when you do not have any or have relationships with other people, when you feel an outsider or when forced into isolation because they become ostracized or offset (in the family, at work / school, or their friends ).
2. Change in the relationships
Loneliness can also be caused by relationships have changed. It can be anything from a outgrow their friends with age (for example, changing interests, or that one provide family), in order to move from their social network or separating from a partner and suddenly find themselves without both companion and socializing.
3. You see yourself as a single person
If you think of yourself as a single person, it is a property you have that you can not change, so it is often easy to get caught up in loneliness. It may be that seeing yourself as a loner, someone who nobody likes, or as "the eternal single".
4. Lack of social skills
Loneliness may also be due to the lack of social skills, and therefore find it difficult to form relationships with others. It may be that you do not know how to start or continue a conversation with others in a relaxed manner, that it is incredibly shy or even have social phobia, or that you have a negative attitude or even behave badly toward Other.
Strategies to deal with loneliness
Loneliness is like saying something very common and most people feel loneliness in some degree during one or more periods of life. However, there are specific things you can do to manage her loneliness so that it feels better and so that it could ultimately reduce or disappear completely. Here are four successful strategies for dealing with loneliness:
1. Make a rational analysis
Look at your situation from the outside and try to make an objective, rational analysis of the situation. What is your loneliness and what you could do to change your situation? Faced with social situations, whether you experience them as dangerous / annoying, think of the advantages compared to disadvantages and see if the potential gains can motivate you to go there / talk more with people (or what you need to do to reduce loneliness).
2. Stop blame personal characteristics
Try to find what situations or behaviors that create loneliness, instead of thinking "I'm like this as a person." Loneliness is not an innate characteristic, you are not "doomed" to eternal loneliness because of who you are. You can change your situation if you really want and make sure to have the mindset.
3. Make positive to other people
You will not be less lonely if you are bitter and negative towards others. Make sure to keep a positive attitude toward others (even in your own thoughts!), So it is much easier for the people you meet want to have contact or make friends with you.
4. Re-evaluate your loneliness
Instead of seeing loneliness as something negative, you can learn to re-evaluate it and instead appreciate the solitude you have. Being alone can be somewhat useful as it provides a greater opportunity to experience their inner world and to get to know himself.
5. Focus on friendship rather than love
Focus on acquiring or maintaining good friends, instead of putting all our energy on finding The One. It is usually much easier (and with less risk of a broken heart) to find friends than a companion. In addition, to enter into a relationship with a girl with the intention that you will not have to be lonely is not exactly the best breeding ground for love.
Comment if you ever felt alone and what you think your loneliness is, or was due. In this way we can help each other to understand that we are not alone in our solitude.
And good luck to everybody to get rid of your loneliness!
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