Do you have any good suggestions on how I will find the purpose of my life, and how do I come up with what is mine and my goals with my life?

Hello Mr. Life Coaching

I'm sitting with a dilemma that I do not know what I want and what I think about my life.

My life feels pointless and I can not find really my goal, and the goal of my life.

Do you have any good suggestions on how I will find the purpose of my life?
How do I come up with what is mine and my goals with my life?

Hoping for an answer, and thanks in advance for your help!

Brad


Hi Brad

Most of us have no clue what we want to do with our lives. Even after we finish school. Even after we get a job. Even after we’re making money. Between ages 18 and 25, I changed career aspirations more often than I changed my underwear. And even after I had a business, it wasn’t until I was 28 that I clearly defined what I wanted for my life.

Chances are you’re more like me and have no clue what you want to do. It’s a struggle almost every adult goes through. “What do I want to do with my life?” “What am I passionate about?” “What do I not suck at?” I often receive emails from people in their 40s and 50s who still have no clue what they want to do with themselves.

Part of the problem is the concept of “life purpose” itself. The idea that we were each born for some higher purpose and it’s now our cosmic mission to find it. This is the same kind of shitty logic used to justify things like spirit crystals or that your lucky number is 34 (but only on Tuesdays or during full moons).

Here’s the truth. We exist on this earth for some undetermined period of time. During that time we do things. Some of these things are important. Some of them are unimportant. And those important things give our lives meaning and happiness. The unimportant ones basically just kill time.

So when people say, “What should I do with my life?” or “What is my life purpose?” what they’re actually asking is: “What can I do with my time that is important?”

Adam Leipzig has figured out that it takes five questions in under five minutes to discover what you are meant to do with your life.

Film producer and, now motivational speaker Adam Leipzig attended his 25th Yale college reunion. After speaking with old friends, he came to an astonishing conclusion – more than 80% of them were unhappy with their lives. 

The majority of his former classmates were financially stable, highly educated and with life partners - yet they were dissatisfied. Leipzig then questioned the 20% who were leading happy and fulfilling lives and found that most of them had studied what interested them in college, not what they felt would propel them to the “right” career. He also discovered that they knew something about their very own life purpose.

This sweet and well-meaning TED Talk of the Week deduces how to find your life purpose by asking five simple questions:

1. Who are you?
2. What do you love to do?
3. Who do you do it for?
4. What do those people want or need?
5. How do they change as a result of what you give them? 

Start watch on to figure out the meaning behind these five questions and how finding your life purpose might be a lot easier than you think.

After that you can also take this quiz on: How to Find Passion in Your Life

Hope this was helpful to you, and good luck with finding out what the point is with precisely your unique life. 

Plus, it's important to remember: - The meaning of your life is not exactly the same meaningfulness as they are with my life.

You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.

What really matters in life, and what can you learn from those who arrived in their old age?

Hello mental coach

I'm thinking of what really is important in life, and what makes life really worth living and what counts in the end?

I have no fear of death, and do not think my life is bad or so.

But I'm thinking, and often speculate about what you really will think was important in life, and especially when approaching and going away in to old age.

You as mental life coach may know and can help me with the answer to my question here, I hope.

Happy greeting

Alexander


Hi Alexander

Yes, it's a very good question and interesting thoughts that you have now sent in to me here.

I have interviewed a number of people who were over 90 years. And as they answered the question of what life is, and what has been most instructive, and what life itself is about. Etc.

Here you can read the list here that I have compiled. With the most common answers I received from those 90 years of people I've interviewed:

• You do not have to win every argument.
• Remain always completely honest with yourself.
• Cry with someone, it's more healing than crying alone.
• As for chocolate, so it is useless to try to resist.
• Make peace with your past so it will not destroy your future.
• It's okay that your children see you cry.
• Do not compare your life with others. You have no idea what their journey of life contains.
• If a relationship has to be a secret, you should not be a part of it.
• Take a deep breath, it gets your mind to relax.
• Get rid of anything that you do not need. Unnecessary material possessions weighing on you in many ways.
• Anything that does not kill you will make you stronger.
• It is never too late to be happy. But it's only up to you and no one else.
• When it comes to chasing what you love in life, then never accept no for an answer.
• Every day is special, so make the most of every day of your life.
• Prepare yourself and then follow with the flow.
• The most important sex organ is the brain.
• No one but you can control your happiness.
• Set music to each so-called drama in your life with these words, "Does this really matter in the future and in a few years?".
• Always choose life.
• Forgive everything but never forget anything.
• What others think about you, you have nothing to do with, so you not need to worry about it.
• Time heals almost all wounds. Let time go and do their job.
• How good or bad a situation is, it will always change.
• Do not take yourself too seriously. No one else does.
• Do not judge your life. Simply make the best of it right now.
• Getting old beats the alternative - dying young.
• All children have only one childhood.
• The only thing that really matters in the end is that you loved.
• Make sure to be outdoors every day. Miracle waiting everywhere.
• If we threw away all our problems and took over all the problems of others, we would quickly take back our own problems.
• Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you think you desire.
• The best thing in life has not happened to you yet.
• Regardless of how you feel. Dress up and dive up and rake in.
• Life has no bow around it, but it's still a gift.

I hope the list will help you provide an answer to what is most important in life, and where it really counts when it comes to end of life.

You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.

How do I find my life goals and meaning of my life, and how can I return to my own spark of life, and finding my own life goals again?

Hello

I have gone astray and lost me completely coherent in my life, and I can not find my live goals now.
I do not know what the meaning of my life is, and what I want to do anymore in and with my life.
I go mostly around in circles, and nothing made any sense more for me.

I hope you have some good advice to give me. About how I come out of this, and get back my zest for life, and find my own purposes for and in my life again.

Thanks in advance for your help and your always good and very wise advices.

Mirjam


Hi Miriam

Every normal person has these thoughts, and everyone feels that way at some time, or several times during their lifetime.

A good way to find out and overcome the dept that is the most important thing in one's life. Is to settle down somewhere where it's really calm and quiet.

Thought Exercise No. 1

Then you can begin to think like this:

You imagine that you are on your way to a funeral. When you come to the funeral and seeing all the people who are there. Then you see that all your work colleagues, friends, and family are all gathered there.

When you get to the coffin, you discover that it is you who is there in the coffin now.

Then you sit down in amongst all those others who have gathered there.

When you are reading the program sheet for the funeral. Do you see that there are several speakers who will talk about. How you were as a family member, friend, and colleague, etc.

Now think of what you think them will say about you today? And when those different people will give for kind of a speech about you. About how you were as a person and what you have done for them and so on.

After this you can think about what you want them different persons instead would hold a speech about you, and what you have meant to them and done for them etc?

Things that's you want them to say about you at your funeral. Are there things that are genuinely and absolutely most important and fundamental for you in your life, and you should aim to try to reach them before your own funeral taking place.

What you are up to the here and now. Will be those overall life goals in your life, and you should live by them in the future.

Thought Exercise No. 2

Now you can do the above mental exercise. But now change the time format. That you have only 24 hours to live before you die. What are the most important people for you, and what you like to have done before you die?

Then you can make the same mental exercise. But, think about what you're going to do, if you would only live a week, a month or a year?

These different mental exercises and expriment with different time horizons. Giving you the answer to how different things are important to you, and how you should be able to prioritize between the different things, and those times when you do not have time for everything in your life.

If none of the above given exercises will help you.

Then you can contact a teraput who is expert in logo therapy. This is because they are especially focused on helping adder people who are just looking for there own purpose of their lives.

Or you can write direkt to me here, and receive private personal and individual existential life advice for you.

Would this not help you. You should contact a psychologist reception. Where you can then get a more complete investigation of your problems, and if you perhaps can eventually suffer from a temporary mental illness, and which now lets you have lost the zest for your life and your purpose in your life.

You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.