How occurs and affects my own different feelings, thoughts and behaviors me, and can I change this?

Hey coach

What must I do to be better able to understand what other people think, and what the different emotions they have?

And how occurs and affects my own different feelings, thoughts and behaviors me, and can I change this?

I am grateful for answer

Igor


Hi Igor

If you show the qualities that express concern for others. You showing that you have chosen to live a life that is bigger than yourself!

And the qualities you need to strengthen such as reducing down your ego in favor of caring about others is:

• Empathy, compassion, altruism, trust, generosity, love, compassion, forgiveness, gratitude are qualities in personality development, religion and spirituality cultivated highly appreciated, qualities that make you a proper man.
• Selfishness, insensitivity, egocentricity, suspicion, greed, hatred, malice, unforgiveness, ungratefulness are qualities that you should process, narrowing down and try to leave behind.

Relationships that entertains and is rewarding to be positive!

Did you know that intimate partner who managed to keep through life using at least five times more loving and positive communication and emotional expression than negative! They often ask questions and show interest in their partner's life. Criticism should be constructive and well-intentioned. Important criteria which proved in the study were: Parenting kept love alive and had a strategy for this, they were often facing his partner in conversation (not turned his back!), They admired and respected her partner and had fun together. The same criteria also proved to be important to keep a relationship alive in a sexual and romantic high level. The study was done by Gottman, ratio: 5: 1 seems to apply.

Note:
Criticism, contempt, defensive, or blocking of communication are criteria which often indicates that a relationship will end.

Thoughts, feelings and actions!

Thoughts are central in your life. Try to stop thinking! how long managed to your inner dialogue be quiet? a few seconds, maybe! When you think you will also see inner images as a result of your thoughts! example:

You think you want to take it calm and have a holiday! and suddenly in your mind, you see a red open sports car that you are traveling at the Summer Sweden! Now you know even vindraget in your hair smells of nature while the sun shines on your face where you are traveling through your dark sunglasses!

Your thoughts are first created images that in turn created sensations, feelings! which now produces physical reactions. You can now physically experience the smells, the wind and the heat of the sun in your body, despite everything it is only pure fiction from the beginning, a fantasy, which began with a thought!

You extend to you, and now go physically to the window to look out the window, to see if it's sunny outside, see if the summer is on the way! You open the balcony door to feel whether it's hot out and to feel the smells!

Your thoughts are first created images that in turn created feelings, sensations which in turn ultimately created DOCUMENTS (behavior) based on your inner experiences and associations!

If we follow the previous reasoning that our experiences, thoughts, thought patterns and emotional responses are stored in our inner (subconscious!) So we understand what spängkraft this may have on our everyday lives, and how it can affect our way of being and acting if we do it more consciously! There are scholars who argue that our thoughts and especially frequent patterns of thought strengthens certain neural pathways in the brain!

Imagine that your mind is a great computer! and that all your thoughts, feelings and experiences are stored in the hard drive of the computer memories. All the memories and experiences which are lying latent and you can pick them up if necessary, and you can also store new experiences there. The hard drive allows us symbolized as your memory bank, your experiences! The thoughts and thought patterns that you use are you thinking now as different documents in different applications that you choose to open on the desktop of your computer. Ie skills and experiences that you pick up from the hard drive (memory bank) in the internal memory on your computer. In the internal memory there are now applications and documents you have open in helfönster on your desktop that you are actively working with (deliberately), but also applications and documents that you have chosen to minimize as icons in the taskbar, but still available rapidly, in your mind (subconscious !). Now imagine that it is you who write and determine the contents of all the documents, and you can even choose which applications and documents should be open (conscious) or minimized (subconscious!) On the desktop that you may soon need them again! And it's only you who can change the contents of the documents by more consciously reshape your thoughts!

Your thoughts are therefore very important tools to create change. But it is not enough that you change your mind for you to succeed, but you must actively relax on the feeling, empathy for your thoughts and then change your actions (behaviors) of Vardan. It is so the experience is great and programmed.

Therefore, you must consciously begin to work with thoughts, feelings and actions together: "Every action the father is a given," quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson.

• Thoughts
• Emotions
• Actions (behaviors)

CBT - cognitive behavioral therapy, Mindfulness, Visualization and Mental training is practical ways you can regularly make use of to learn how to replace negative thoughts with more positive thoughts and learn how to more actively seeking out the thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

Next week I will answer the question about. How your thoughts will always
be ahead of your feelings, and be the prior actions in your life!

You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.

Are all om my worries and my concerns normal or not?

Hey!

I have often worries and feel worried about different things and can not relax? And I'm still tired, and have a disturbed sleep.

Grateful for answers to what it is, and help on how I can feel better!

Mirjam


Hi Mirjam

Concern now and then is not in itself unhealthy. It is part of how we operate. Under stress, it is normal to be more worried about the big and small things in life.

How do you know if the worry is normal?
- When the unrest is a constant torment speaks of Generalized Anxiety Disorder, GAD. Then jump turmoil around the different areas of life. You're worried about everything possible, not just for a single cause, such as health.

Who suffer from GAD?
- More than 5% are hit by abnormal worry, and there are more women than men who are plagued by excessive concern for years and without understanding that it is about GAD. There is a certain heredity. GAD can be triggered or aggravated by the trauma of divorce and death and so on.

What are the symptoms?
- Anxiety in the form of lump in the stomach, chest tightness, dizziness, sleep disturbances and muscle tension are typical symptoms. And catastrophic thoughts like "What if my child dies in traffic?", "What do my work colleagues really know about me?" And "How should I handle the economy" has often been difficult to make decisions.

Why are you?
- Often you worry about things that other people think are petty, perhaps to keep it really unpleasant gone. With the picture is almost always a depression. Perhaps you fear for what life has become and can not to think about it, focusing instead on concerns about concrete things that are closer in time.

- Concerns can also serve as a way to try to control events. For example: A person who constantly worry that their child will die might instead think "what if she crashes!" And calling and checking all the time. If all goes well think GAD patient "as the turmoil has probably worked anyway."

What is the cure for GAD?
- The studies have shown that therapy is enough for some. Others are good only of antidepressant medication, and some feel best combination. CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy, is to find hidden patterns of thinking and getting the brain to think in other courses. By becoming aware and change their negative thought patterns can be good, or at least better.

Can you get completely free from worry?
- Some might be realizing that they can never get rid of worries completely. Then you have to learn to accept it and understand that anxiety is not dangerous. You get the tools to manage the turmoil and anxiety and learn to cope with disaster thoughts. With the help and training they go to keep in check. One technique is micro-breaks, where you stop, take a deep breath, think "relax" and then go on with what you were doing.

I hope it was a response to, and to your concerns and your worries, and you are always welcome to contact me to get private invidual help for your anxiety.

You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health Training and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.