Hi coach
How thoughts arise, and why it pops up thoughts in our heads from not just empty?
How are we affected by our thoughts, really, and what force have our thoughts on us?
One who is thinking about this, and who wish to have an answer to this about our thoughts.
Suzanne
Hi Suzanne
Thoughts may well so often only occur by itself, it may seem, suddenly strikes the just, for no reason!
All too often reflects the thinking old problems or fears of various kinds! Or you repeat the old beliefs and patterns. But how often do you actively engaged conscious thoughts!
Situations reminiscent of past memories can be the trigger. There also seems to be a thinking process that goes on within you, ready to be heard. Your thoughts in turn triggers the time the feelings of various kinds.
Are you in that case entirely disclosure to yourself but you can not control or influence your thoughts and feelings? No, here comes the interesting part in that by making you more consciously trying to experience and reflect on your thoughts and feelings, accept them and through different methods try to create new thought patterns, you can even consciously reshape and influence both your mind, your personality and ultimately your physical health, you can also affect your inner dialogue.
That you deliberately create newer for more constructive and positive thoughts, reflecting therefore in your inner and your outer. You make a kind of reprogramming you themselves how awful it may sound.
"You become what you think!" (Buddha)
"Everything is energy!" (Albert Einstein)
"What you think you will be!" (Mr. Chris Savage Life Coach)
The tank inherent power!
The idea has a strong inherent power (energy) that are important to understand. We believe that we need to take responsibility for our thoughts as these often can seem to live their own lives within us, and do not have any function as long as we do not communicate them with the outside world. That the internal dialogue of constant thoughts affect our health as well as our mental well-being is now something that has attracted increasing attention. In modern psychotherapy, used methods that CBT - cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness, examples of how this knowledge has been incorporated in health care.
In various religions, philosophies, different personality doctrines, sciences and modern psychology, the importance of the tanks impact on our health always existed and been central.
The idea is a creative force which if properly used can affect both your mental and physical health!
In psychology, it is recognized and accepted that you think often enough and believe and know within you finally become an accepted truth, a self-fulfilled prophecy! Valid for your thoughts, feelings, values and actions in different situations - be it negative or positive! A kind of inner brainwashing going on and taken hold and eventually take over us! Even worse is that situations that you have not mastered and previously experienced resistance and known failure automatically turns on and is perceived in a similar way the next time you encounter these situations. The same is true feelings you have! You have already built up an internal resistance which now blows again. The same tracks played on the disc again may seem.
To remain in a comfort zone where your fears and failures may act can also be an obstacle to you alter yourself, you feel at home in these resistors and problems that affected / affects you and you identify with them so much that they become your enhanced self-image of yourself, with yourself and your surroundings. You are secure in what you have, but not in what you can get!
You and I always act in any sort of comfort zone, if you are ready to change your self-image and create a new way to see and act, you can usefully use the positive techniques, such as: affirmations, visualization, or simply change your habits and create new patterns in your everyday life and the sphere of thought by a decision to simply do so, the more difficult it need not be!
Negative thoughts lose their power if you do not repeat them!
Did you know that when you think positively then the left front lobe of the brain active, the same place that is active during deep meditation! Do you think negative is rather higher anterior lobe of the brain active. Research has also shown that if you just think you do a physical motion that affects and activates the same brain cells that are activated when you physically rehearse the movement, such as moving your fingers in a certain order on a piano! View and order The plastic brain: Keep yourself healthy, Educational Broadcasting.
Fears!
How good are you just being here and now, in the moment? Thoughts and memories creates feelings! And the negative feelings of guilt and fear can be so prominent in your life that they gain the upper hand, which can mean that you feel guilty about the past (your memories) and anxiety and fear of what is to come in the future! Ie you lose the ability to live here and now, which is not good for your psyche and your health in the long run!
Note
Anxiety is often due to negative emotional memories automated and which becomes active in certain situations / contexts, and a fear of the future.
Dependencies!
Addictions such as alcohol, drugs, mental health problems, with eating disorders, negative thoughts, of emotions, etc. sets itself not only as fuel but can sit requesting body clean physically, even perhaps as cell desires? It has been found that different receptors receiving signal substances of different kinds, for example drugs and respond to specific receptors in the body. At an increased abuse of any kind to answer these receptors worse after a long addiction with the result that you often have to increase the dose of addiction to feel the same satisfactions! Much like insulin resistance can work for diabetes type 2, though it is the abuse and addictions is about bad requests / habits instead that affects the body's functionality. That's probably why it's so hard to stop the abuse, and makes it difficult in the beginning, for example in cigarette smoking! The good of the matter is that the body can get rid of a desire and it is about standing out the first worst time! And with constructive focus, thoughts, feelings and actions, most balance and new identifications. See also Request - Resistors - programming.
Think you become dependent on your thoughts and feelings are negative?
Nourishing and Consumption!
In relationships that are out of balance, it may be that one party takes the role of the more nourishing, the more worthwhile sacrifice while the other party is the more Consumption is taking demanding! This skewed distribution can unfortunately become a way of life. All relationships should be based on a mutual give and take where each individual can grow. In poor soils it is better to try to understand, alter or apply for better chips ...
One way to break the negative thoughts is to learn the practice of mindfulness.
Negative thought patterns confirms just what you already are!
What then is the right thoughts? Simple expressions can say that it is all about developing more positive and constructive thought patterns and try to slow down and stop the thought processes that create repetition of negative thought patterns and ultimately in the worst case lead to stagnation in our lives.
Of course, one should have a critical approach to the phenomena of one's business environment, the ability to analyze and understand, ie constructively and consciously use a healthy critical thinking, a more objective perception! This obviously also on how we look at ourselves, to more objectively reflect on one's own behavior! For self-awareness and compassion.
It is when we let negative thoughts control us as problems arise. The idea is namely so strong that repetitive thought patterns alter and shape us all the more because, in time, create thoughts reflections in both our inner emotional life as our external life in terms of our health and how we act outwards towards our fellow human beings in different situations. In short, they affect our whole personality, who you are!
Next week I will go through and pay attention to your different feelings and your various emotional states, as well as being an optimistic or pessimistic person in your different ways of thinking.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And
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2016-11-10
2016-02-04
My adult son feel bad and do not seek help, and what should and can I do about it?
My son is 26, has permanent employment, independent living and car.
A few years ago he was accused of a crime but acquitted. He underwent a separation of a year ago, which he initiated. I think he has feelings of guilt and that he has not worked any of these incidents.
He often says that he feels lonely. He has friends and family but no actual interests or activities outside of work.
He turns to me with great confidence, which basically I'm happy and thankful for.
Since last summer, his recurrent felt bad, had trouble sleeping and has what I would call obsessions. The thoughts about different things, and right now he is unhappy in love.
Now and then calling or texting him to me, for example, when I'm at work and says he feels bad. That he did not do more. I get very stressed and feel I need to set boundaries. I have told how I experience it, and then he asks for forgiveness, takes on guilt and says he is useless. What I try to guide him and give support so he dismisses it all, "it's no use."
Help me, how can I help my son? He does not want to go to a psychologist.
Zusanna
Hi Zusanna
I can not assess the severity of the events that your son has been through is for him, it only just himself. I will say, however, what I spontaneously think, is that some setbacks we all have in life. Separations, for example, is the majority of young people through several pieces without for the sake of completely giving up on life. There also seems to be a lot of things in your son's life that works well. Yes even better than most, because it's not every 26-year-olds who have both a fixed job and own housing and car.
What I mean by this is that I in him sense a vulnerability to life's challenges suggests that it might not just outside circumstances that makes him feel so bad? We humans are the fact of the plane; some just gets up and "Brush off the dust" from completely overwhelming difficult situations, while others become overwhelmed by something that another would hardly have perceived as a violation or failure.
You also take up your son suffers from a lot of obsessions. Just obsessions, and other anxiety symptoms, though often triggered by an external event, but it needs definitely a genetic disposition for developing a more severe obsessive-compulsive disorder. This may be worthwhile to have in your mind when you think about what kind of treatment your son would need. It is for instance not likely to get rid of severe obsessions solely by talking through and process their separation or other life circumstances. They require specific treatment for the compulsion.
Now's your problem might not primarily what treatment your son need, he refuses himself to accept help. Besides your help then. And there seems to have been a little destructive patterns between you. You write that you are glad to have his trust and that he is so open to you, and of course that is something that all parents would appreciate. But I still get the impression that this openness is something your son does not give you completely "free", if I may allow myself to apply financial terms of relationship pattern. Transparency you get for the price of that you must always be there for him, because it's only you will do as interlocutors.
The fact that a conversation does not seem to have led to any lasting improvement, you would actually be able to say that your call also performs the function that your son will not have to seek real help for their problems. That is to say that he can continue to dedicate themselves to dwell on and complain (and receive comfort and understanding in exchange) instead of to make changes, such as quitting to complain. It is namely so that ältande calls have no curative effect, but rather helps to consolidate depressive feelings.
Another thing you bring up is the oscillation between guilt and rejection that your son practice. Once you sometimes do not do more, or simply need to do your job, so the result is that he "takes on debt" and explains itself useless. It may superficially sound humble, but're actually just a nice euphemism for you to hurt him by rejecting him. Through its circumlocutions so he's signaling that it is you who thinks he's so useless, so you are not willing to take the time for him. He himself, however, may reject you, when you come with adequate proposed solutions to his problems. But even there, done it implicitly, when his rejections urgently presented as a kind of "symptoms", ie in terms of apathy and boredom.
This you can continue for long. Because the person who places the responsibility for his life outside himself; the individual events, on you, or on its own "failure". And with you that oscillate between trying to set up what he asks you, even though you realize that it does not lead anywhere, and between trying to assert your right to your own life. So in my opinion, you have absolutely right that you have to start setting boundaries - both for your own sake and for his sake - for none of you is feeling better these destructive relationship patterns.
Consider carefully what you can imagine; when you are available for phone calls, how long they will be and what you're willing to talk to him about and what recommendations you should stick to. Stay up then to these rules. That last one is crucial, because every deviation you make from your rules will lead to that you are back to square one again, and you must start over restoring your limits.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health Training and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
A few years ago he was accused of a crime but acquitted. He underwent a separation of a year ago, which he initiated. I think he has feelings of guilt and that he has not worked any of these incidents.
He often says that he feels lonely. He has friends and family but no actual interests or activities outside of work.
He turns to me with great confidence, which basically I'm happy and thankful for.
Since last summer, his recurrent felt bad, had trouble sleeping and has what I would call obsessions. The thoughts about different things, and right now he is unhappy in love.
Now and then calling or texting him to me, for example, when I'm at work and says he feels bad. That he did not do more. I get very stressed and feel I need to set boundaries. I have told how I experience it, and then he asks for forgiveness, takes on guilt and says he is useless. What I try to guide him and give support so he dismisses it all, "it's no use."
Help me, how can I help my son? He does not want to go to a psychologist.
Zusanna
Hi Zusanna
I can not assess the severity of the events that your son has been through is for him, it only just himself. I will say, however, what I spontaneously think, is that some setbacks we all have in life. Separations, for example, is the majority of young people through several pieces without for the sake of completely giving up on life. There also seems to be a lot of things in your son's life that works well. Yes even better than most, because it's not every 26-year-olds who have both a fixed job and own housing and car.
What I mean by this is that I in him sense a vulnerability to life's challenges suggests that it might not just outside circumstances that makes him feel so bad? We humans are the fact of the plane; some just gets up and "Brush off the dust" from completely overwhelming difficult situations, while others become overwhelmed by something that another would hardly have perceived as a violation or failure.
You also take up your son suffers from a lot of obsessions. Just obsessions, and other anxiety symptoms, though often triggered by an external event, but it needs definitely a genetic disposition for developing a more severe obsessive-compulsive disorder. This may be worthwhile to have in your mind when you think about what kind of treatment your son would need. It is for instance not likely to get rid of severe obsessions solely by talking through and process their separation or other life circumstances. They require specific treatment for the compulsion.
Now's your problem might not primarily what treatment your son need, he refuses himself to accept help. Besides your help then. And there seems to have been a little destructive patterns between you. You write that you are glad to have his trust and that he is so open to you, and of course that is something that all parents would appreciate. But I still get the impression that this openness is something your son does not give you completely "free", if I may allow myself to apply financial terms of relationship pattern. Transparency you get for the price of that you must always be there for him, because it's only you will do as interlocutors.
The fact that a conversation does not seem to have led to any lasting improvement, you would actually be able to say that your call also performs the function that your son will not have to seek real help for their problems. That is to say that he can continue to dedicate themselves to dwell on and complain (and receive comfort and understanding in exchange) instead of to make changes, such as quitting to complain. It is namely so that ältande calls have no curative effect, but rather helps to consolidate depressive feelings.
Another thing you bring up is the oscillation between guilt and rejection that your son practice. Once you sometimes do not do more, or simply need to do your job, so the result is that he "takes on debt" and explains itself useless. It may superficially sound humble, but're actually just a nice euphemism for you to hurt him by rejecting him. Through its circumlocutions so he's signaling that it is you who thinks he's so useless, so you are not willing to take the time for him. He himself, however, may reject you, when you come with adequate proposed solutions to his problems. But even there, done it implicitly, when his rejections urgently presented as a kind of "symptoms", ie in terms of apathy and boredom.
This you can continue for long. Because the person who places the responsibility for his life outside himself; the individual events, on you, or on its own "failure". And with you that oscillate between trying to set up what he asks you, even though you realize that it does not lead anywhere, and between trying to assert your right to your own life. So in my opinion, you have absolutely right that you have to start setting boundaries - both for your own sake and for his sake - for none of you is feeling better these destructive relationship patterns.
Consider carefully what you can imagine; when you are available for phone calls, how long they will be and what you're willing to talk to him about and what recommendations you should stick to. Stay up then to these rules. That last one is crucial, because every deviation you make from your rules will lead to that you are back to square one again, and you must start over restoring your limits.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health Training and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
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