Do you have any good suggestions on how I will find the purpose of my life, and how do I come up with what is mine and my goals with my life?

Hello Mr. Life Coaching

I'm sitting with a dilemma that I do not know what I want and what I think about my life.

My life feels pointless and I can not find really my goal, and the goal of my life.

Do you have any good suggestions on how I will find the purpose of my life?
How do I come up with what is mine and my goals with my life?

Hoping for an answer, and thanks in advance for your help!

Brad


Hi Brad

Most of us have no clue what we want to do with our lives. Even after we finish school. Even after we get a job. Even after we’re making money. Between ages 18 and 25, I changed career aspirations more often than I changed my underwear. And even after I had a business, it wasn’t until I was 28 that I clearly defined what I wanted for my life.

Chances are you’re more like me and have no clue what you want to do. It’s a struggle almost every adult goes through. “What do I want to do with my life?” “What am I passionate about?” “What do I not suck at?” I often receive emails from people in their 40s and 50s who still have no clue what they want to do with themselves.

Part of the problem is the concept of “life purpose” itself. The idea that we were each born for some higher purpose and it’s now our cosmic mission to find it. This is the same kind of shitty logic used to justify things like spirit crystals or that your lucky number is 34 (but only on Tuesdays or during full moons).

Here’s the truth. We exist on this earth for some undetermined period of time. During that time we do things. Some of these things are important. Some of them are unimportant. And those important things give our lives meaning and happiness. The unimportant ones basically just kill time.

So when people say, “What should I do with my life?” or “What is my life purpose?” what they’re actually asking is: “What can I do with my time that is important?”

Adam Leipzig has figured out that it takes five questions in under five minutes to discover what you are meant to do with your life.

Film producer and, now motivational speaker Adam Leipzig attended his 25th Yale college reunion. After speaking with old friends, he came to an astonishing conclusion – more than 80% of them were unhappy with their lives. 

The majority of his former classmates were financially stable, highly educated and with life partners - yet they were dissatisfied. Leipzig then questioned the 20% who were leading happy and fulfilling lives and found that most of them had studied what interested them in college, not what they felt would propel them to the “right” career. He also discovered that they knew something about their very own life purpose.

This sweet and well-meaning TED Talk of the Week deduces how to find your life purpose by asking five simple questions:

1. Who are you?
2. What do you love to do?
3. Who do you do it for?
4. What do those people want or need?
5. How do they change as a result of what you give them? 

Start watch on to figure out the meaning behind these five questions and how finding your life purpose might be a lot easier than you think.

After that you can also take this quiz on: How to Find Passion in Your Life

Hope this was helpful to you, and good luck with finding out what the point is with precisely your unique life. 

Plus, it's important to remember: - The meaning of your life is not exactly the same meaningfulness as they are with my life.

You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.

Why is my life one big chaos all the time?

Hi.

My question is why is my whole life is one big chaos.

I have no order around me, my house looks like a dump, I have not washed the dishes for a month, I've liabilities of the bailiff, I eat anti-depressive, I'm overweight and have some sort of eating disorder, and I am ashamed of myself. Besides all this, I usually feel good and feel at ease. Can it be possible?

Or have I just resigned myself to being this chaos person I am?

Now I eat medicine, so of course it can do enough good.

I made an inquiry for ADHD after the psychologist that I met, seemed to imagine such moves. I reconciled myself to it and it felt really good, nice to get some answers to questions I wondered.

But it was just that towards the end of the investigation, he says that I probably do not have ADHD. And I fall into a sort of hopelessness, where I continued to blame myself for being worthless person.

What can I do? Some days I do not intend at this. But I carry the heavy weight on my shoulders and I have put in the system to sweep problems under the carpet. I just want to be honest with myself and everyone else.

I'm desperate and need your help now.

Biggan


Hi Biggan

It sounds like you need help - now. It sounds hard to sort out all that you describe on your own and also now try to get to the bottom of what it has been like this.

What is it in you that makes it gone so far? How it has looked back in time and your life? Is this something new, or do you recognize it long ago? If it is unfamiliar and new - what may have triggered this in you? Has something happened that caused you to lose his grip and foothold in your life?

Go back to the psychologist who did the study, explain your difficult situation and ask for help to get back on your feet again.

Unless the psychologist can help you, ask to be referred to the one that can help you. Such as me here, that can offer you konfendtiell and private consultation, so that you can get a good strukur and order in your life again.

Moreover, it appears that you'd need hands-on help and direct practical assistance with the practical at home. Maybe you have a friend who can help you with the physical clutter in your home, to catch up there?

Do not give up until you have acquired, the help you right now so desperately need.

You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health Training and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.