Hello Mr. life coach
I'm wondering when is it really cheating?
Is that when you fantasize about having sex with a colleague at work?
Is it when making out with someone other than your partner?
Is it when you think of someone else, when you have sex with their own partners?
Or is it only when you have sex with someone secretly, and when no one's partner knows about it?
I hope that you as a life coach can help me here. So I can sort this out in my relationship with my partner about what the rules are.
Greetings
Jacob
Hi Jacob
We should talk more openly about what we really mean by fidelity and infidelity. There is a set of unspoken rules of what it really means to be together with someone.
But what if the agreement would instead be pronounced at the beginning of a relationship?
Open communication is a more honest alternative to infidelity. Then you could avoid a lot of deception and misunderstanding.
It need not always be about fast rules, but it is about daring to talk about what you wish for, listen, give and take with deep respect for the other's feelings.
Many think that fidelity is about not having sex with someone outside the relationship.
But what counts as infidelity varies very much.
- Can a heterosexual woman go and camp with a male mate or vice versa?
- Lying on his lap and watch television?
- Another feels threatened by the partner or masturbating porn surfing.
- While a third think to plan Easter together is a matter of course in a love relationship.
Especially for many of heterosexual relationships can close friendships perceived as threatening.
Contrary to what many believe may temporarily sex with others, in some cases, contribute to maintaining a long lasting relationship.
Is it reasonable to expect sexual exclusivity in a relationship that lasts 15 years?
Yes, for some it is a matter of course. But for others it is better to renegotiate the agreement.
The reality is true that so often not quite agree with the map. In surveys, 20-50 percent that they sometime in life has been unfaithful to a partner. Therefore, I suggest that we should reinterpret the concept of infidelity.
Infidelity can instead be defined as a crime against a common agreement. Faithfulness does not necessarily mean sexual exclusivity to a partner.
When to take their allegiance talking?
When you have been together, and as early as possible in a relationship. It may feel distant to think about opening up a relationship when you are newly in love. But I still think that it is easier to bring up the subject and discussed early on in the relationship, and before it's too late and has already destroyed the relationship.
I hope it was the answer to your question and concerns, and that they can solve some of those problems that you have.
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Showing posts with label Sexually. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sexually. Show all posts
2016-03-31
2016-03-17
I am bisexual and I am in love with my best friend, and how can I solve this with my family, and what can I do about it with my best friend?
I am 15 years old and need to be clear to me what I should do, ok?
So: I am a girl who pea in love with my best friend.
She already has a boyfriend so it can not just jump up and say "I'm in love with you," then chances are that it just collapses. The emotions have cooled a bit, but today, it started again. And my family did not know that I'm bisexual so it makes everything more difficult.
To my question:
How should I do? And what about my family who are against the whole thing with that girl with the girl thing?
Emily
Hi Emily
It sounds as if you are walking around with two big issues right now.
And that you are in love with your best friend and wondering if you should tell her?
And secondly, that you are bisexual and think about how it would be if you came out ahead of your family?
If you tell your friend that you are in love with her, I think depends on why you want to do it. Is it because you have the hope that it will be the two of you? Or is it because you feel you have to tell that it is difficult to spend time with her when you're so in love?
You write nothing about your relationship and her looks or her sexual orientation, but she already has a boyfriend so the likelihood that there would be two of you right now is not so great perhaps. But if you feel you want and need to tell your own sake.
So think about that you should select a time when you both are themselves, for example, at the home of any of you, or if you go for a walk. You can submit it as it is something you feel you need to tell, because it's hard to keep it within you, and you hope that it will not be in the way of your and her friendship relationship, but that you actually feel in love in her.
It is impossible for me to say something about how she will react to what you tell us, perhaps, she is great, but there are of course also a risk that she will feel uncomfortable or do not know what she should do. So you must consider whether to take that risk before you tell.
When it comes to getting out front of your parents, it's nothing you have to do. Nobody has any obligation to talk about their sexual orientation to others. But for most, it feels much better to tell other than to keep the information to himself.
Have you come out ahead another person before? I think it is good. To the one who first they tell, is a person you can trust, and that you know you will get support from. If you suspect that your parents are against bisexuality and homosexuality. So it might be nice to have a network around you who know even sexual orientation, and who can support you if your parents react negatively. This can include contacts in real life or online.
If you decide to tell your parents, it is also good to do so in a peaceful context where you can talk properly with each other. For most people who tell others that they are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer, it goes very well. But it can of course happen that you get a bad reaction from your parents. Some may be very difficult to understand that someone may have a different sexual orientation than heterosexual.
If you come out and your parents react negatively or treats you badly, it is important to remember that you have the right to be exactly who you want and feel safe. If your parents react poorly, you can seek support from someone you trust or a youth or an organization for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queers.
I wish you all good luck!
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
So: I am a girl who pea in love with my best friend.
She already has a boyfriend so it can not just jump up and say "I'm in love with you," then chances are that it just collapses. The emotions have cooled a bit, but today, it started again. And my family did not know that I'm bisexual so it makes everything more difficult.
To my question:
How should I do? And what about my family who are against the whole thing with that girl with the girl thing?
Emily
Hi Emily
It sounds as if you are walking around with two big issues right now.
And that you are in love with your best friend and wondering if you should tell her?
And secondly, that you are bisexual and think about how it would be if you came out ahead of your family?
If you tell your friend that you are in love with her, I think depends on why you want to do it. Is it because you have the hope that it will be the two of you? Or is it because you feel you have to tell that it is difficult to spend time with her when you're so in love?
You write nothing about your relationship and her looks or her sexual orientation, but she already has a boyfriend so the likelihood that there would be two of you right now is not so great perhaps. But if you feel you want and need to tell your own sake.
So think about that you should select a time when you both are themselves, for example, at the home of any of you, or if you go for a walk. You can submit it as it is something you feel you need to tell, because it's hard to keep it within you, and you hope that it will not be in the way of your and her friendship relationship, but that you actually feel in love in her.
It is impossible for me to say something about how she will react to what you tell us, perhaps, she is great, but there are of course also a risk that she will feel uncomfortable or do not know what she should do. So you must consider whether to take that risk before you tell.
When it comes to getting out front of your parents, it's nothing you have to do. Nobody has any obligation to talk about their sexual orientation to others. But for most, it feels much better to tell other than to keep the information to himself.
Have you come out ahead another person before? I think it is good. To the one who first they tell, is a person you can trust, and that you know you will get support from. If you suspect that your parents are against bisexuality and homosexuality. So it might be nice to have a network around you who know even sexual orientation, and who can support you if your parents react negatively. This can include contacts in real life or online.
If you decide to tell your parents, it is also good to do so in a peaceful context where you can talk properly with each other. For most people who tell others that they are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer, it goes very well. But it can of course happen that you get a bad reaction from your parents. Some may be very difficult to understand that someone may have a different sexual orientation than heterosexual.
If you come out and your parents react negatively or treats you badly, it is important to remember that you have the right to be exactly who you want and feel safe. If your parents react poorly, you can seek support from someone you trust or a youth or an organization for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queers.
I wish you all good luck!
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-03-10
Why are the girls in my school at the university and college, sketches and draws dicks and penises during and in our lessons?
Hello Mr. Psychologist
I have a question. Why almost all the girls in my class at university and college siting and drawing dicks during and in the class when they are bored?
Some of the girls sometimes take a picture of a guy in the class with her mobile camera, and then she'll put a dick in the picture with the guy, and sends the image here on Snapchat for her friends.
I hope you can explain this to me, and I hope I get an answer to my question here.
Greetings
Michael
Hi Michael
It's a very interesting question and the phenomenon that you describe here about the girls in your class at university and college, and who you now choose to send in and ask me about here.
And it is a completely different question and answer. Why guys choose to sit down and draw a cock, or even draw dicks everywhere else.
The first thing that I can very easily say is, and this is completely no matter if there are girls or guys who now sits downs and draws dicks on and under your lessons.
That is that the students must be very bored because of the subject. Or because it's a very bad teacher who does not have any educational aptitude and personality, and that person should not be a speaker and lecturer for anyone, and should not be in charge of your education, or any of your lessons you have.
On why women and girls draw dicks and penises, we can only draw the following conclusions below.
We begin here with the explanation for why some women and girls just love penises and cocks.
Firstly, it is quite common and natural for women and girls that they like them. This is because if they would not do it, so could our reproduction and evulotionen of mankind died out fairly quickly on Earth.
If you watch the video below, you will get answers to, and you will understand why these women and girls love cocks and penises.
Now we come to why some women and girls draw penises and cocks when and against those men and boys and that they hate.
It is often because these women and girls have been victims of some form of past violations by pspykist or physically by a man or boy in their lives.
Or just they find a male person has generally been mean to them, and have not shown them the respect they think they deserve as the women and girls in any context.
Then usually they draw penises and cocks on the images of that person, and especially in the faces of those they hate, and often they choose to add the word "Gay" to the person and the image etc.
All this because they want to humiliate the male person's masculinity and belittle his possibility of being able to sexually reproduce in the future, and this because he is classified as gay and according to them.
Now we go over to: Why women and girls sketch and draw dicks and penises without having any direct ulterior motive for why they like to do this.
We found this thread at reddit.com and who now might be a lot of explanations of this phenomenon, and why women and girls like to draw dicks and penises.
We quote some typical messages from the thread at AskReddit.com, and that explains the phenomenon quite clearly:
- I'm a female and I have a fucking notebook full of Dick drawings. I asked myself the same thing once...tried to draw a vagina and it came out looking like an angry seagull.
I hope you are now satisfied with my answer, and you've got a good answer to your question, Michael. On why women and girls to sign and draw dicks and penises?
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I have a question. Why almost all the girls in my class at university and college siting and drawing dicks during and in the class when they are bored?
Some of the girls sometimes take a picture of a guy in the class with her mobile camera, and then she'll put a dick in the picture with the guy, and sends the image here on Snapchat for her friends.
I hope you can explain this to me, and I hope I get an answer to my question here.
Greetings
Michael
Hi Michael
It's a very interesting question and the phenomenon that you describe here about the girls in your class at university and college, and who you now choose to send in and ask me about here.
And it is a completely different question and answer. Why guys choose to sit down and draw a cock, or even draw dicks everywhere else.
The first thing that I can very easily say is, and this is completely no matter if there are girls or guys who now sits downs and draws dicks on and under your lessons.
That is that the students must be very bored because of the subject. Or because it's a very bad teacher who does not have any educational aptitude and personality, and that person should not be a speaker and lecturer for anyone, and should not be in charge of your education, or any of your lessons you have.
On why women and girls draw dicks and penises, we can only draw the following conclusions below.
- Some of them just love cocks and penises in addition to everything else there is in life.
- Other women and girls express their direct hate towards the person who has a cock and penis.
- And some are just so bored and very much like to just draw them, and this because they are so fun and easy to draw they believe.
We begin here with the explanation for why some women and girls just love penises and cocks.
Firstly, it is quite common and natural for women and girls that they like them. This is because if they would not do it, so could our reproduction and evulotionen of mankind died out fairly quickly on Earth.
If you watch the video below, you will get answers to, and you will understand why these women and girls love cocks and penises.
Now we come to why some women and girls draw penises and cocks when and against those men and boys and that they hate.
It is often because these women and girls have been victims of some form of past violations by pspykist or physically by a man or boy in their lives.
Or just they find a male person has generally been mean to them, and have not shown them the respect they think they deserve as the women and girls in any context.
Then usually they draw penises and cocks on the images of that person, and especially in the faces of those they hate, and often they choose to add the word "Gay" to the person and the image etc.
All this because they want to humiliate the male person's masculinity and belittle his possibility of being able to sexually reproduce in the future, and this because he is classified as gay and according to them.
Now we go over to: Why women and girls sketch and draw dicks and penises without having any direct ulterior motive for why they like to do this.
We found this thread at reddit.com and who now might be a lot of explanations of this phenomenon, and why women and girls like to draw dicks and penises.
We quote some typical messages from the thread at AskReddit.com, and that explains the phenomenon quite clearly:
- I'm a female and I have a fucking notebook full of Dick drawings. I asked myself the same thing once...tried to draw a vagina and it came out looking like an angry seagull.
I hope you are now satisfied with my answer, and you've got a good answer to your question, Michael. On why women and girls to sign and draw dicks and penises?
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
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