Hello Mr. life coach and therapist
Have a friend who feels awful. Do not really know what to say or do to help her. Know that she is very sensitive and takes very offended easily. Big and small things.
She has lost contact with several of her friends, she feels hurt and disappointed because it feels like they always think that it is she who does / says wrong. Sometimes feel out among his childhood friends she had known all her life, and it extremely painful. A friend has completely stopped talking to her, the reason is quite unclear and it was still a good friend that she shared several memories.
She has quite large mood swings, irritability, and can lie and cry often, sometimes for something that happened but sometimes she does not even know why. She says she often has anxiety and not be bothered to do anything. She says she hates herself. Are often tired and sad that it does not feel as if someone understands her, sometimes not even she herself.
She does not like where she lives. Her self-esteem / self-confidence is at zero, and she did not feel comfortable with her appearance, she says she is fat even though she is not, she often compares himself with others. Even though I told her she should not do it. She is fine and good as she is. But often, I guess it is in itself, it might not matter remained what others say. She does not like to feel so weak, she wishes she could resist and feel strong any time. There are even more that are not fit to write here.
Many thanks for your response and your help
Erina
Hi Erina
Your friend feel bad and there seems to be a condition that is more protracted and deeper than being depressed and anxious and then. Any diagnosis of your friend's problem is not possible to provide based on your brief letter, and it is not what I can offer here.
Perhaps the best way for you to help your buddy may be that you make her aware that we all feel bad sometimes. That feeling is that it will be so for life while it is help to feel better. So she has now, she should not have to have it. There is help available. You are a wise and compassionate friend who is troubling you and want to help her.
A first step on the road to your buddy may be that she sees a doctor or a psychologist at the medical center she belongs to an investigative and expository conversations about what is going on.
The low self-esteem as you look at your mate can make you feel that others do not want a well, or think of one, and may lead to think that others speak ill of one. You write that your friend even among childhood friends as she had known all her life "feel out", and that her friends seem to think that what she "says and does is wrong." When you feel bad, you can become overly critical both to himself and others.
You also tell us about your friend's mood swings. She easily gets irritated, and that friends have shirked her. I understand what you write that it is something new, and not as it has been before. An odd mood of this kind is often a problem in relation to family and friends. Especially if the environment does not understand that the person is not feeling well. It could be understood that it has become awkward and aloof. It can then easily lead to conflicts in the family, or friends withdraw. Disappointed and angry. The dilemma is that when you feel bad you do not feel cope with such incidents, and perhaps do not understand what is happening. It is difficult to solve problems. Both energy and thinking are often significantly reduced.
I want to emphasize that there can be many reasons for it as your friend feel as awkward and as obstacles to her. Then propose to her, of course, fully respecting that it is she who decides how it will be, to meet with a school counselor, doctor or psychologist to talk about what she is experiencing. The first step may be to contact the health center she belongs. Primary care staff have great experience to meet and help people with various psychological disorders. Or you can give the council to your friend, that she contact me for individual private consultation and advice here.
What you might do more for your friend? In addition to encouraging a seek care. We know from studies that people who have problems with anxiety feel better if it is physically active, and despite its spontaneous resistance still do things that previously enjoyed. It is called in psychology for behavioral activation, and for many who try it it is surprisingly helpful. So another way to also help your friend may be to encourage the take walks together, maybe jogging if it fits in, and with a friendly insistence offer her to do what you do normally amuses her. Activation in this way two or three times a week is often enough to atmospheric situation will be improved step by step.
If you hear your friend's expressing a death wish or thoughts about suicide, you propose her to contact Suicide Enlightenment, a chat line, where they can receive support and guidance.
It is a privilege to be your friend trusts you while it can be difficult for you to bear her suffering on your shoulders. Think know if there would be an option for you to talk to her family or adult in your vicinity so that they can help her. I know it's not always so easy to talk to an adult. One can feel that betrays his friend. While it may be a necessary step. You can also for themselves to hear from you with any other organization for support and assistance.
You seem to me a very nice and empathetic person, and that I would say to you is that you should also take care of yourself.
Hugs to you both and hope this helps, and it gets better.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
Have a friend who feels awful. Do not really know what to say or do to help her. Know that she is very sensitive and takes very offended easily. Big and small things.
She has lost contact with several of her friends, she feels hurt and disappointed because it feels like they always think that it is she who does / says wrong. Sometimes feel out among his childhood friends she had known all her life, and it extremely painful. A friend has completely stopped talking to her, the reason is quite unclear and it was still a good friend that she shared several memories.
She has quite large mood swings, irritability, and can lie and cry often, sometimes for something that happened but sometimes she does not even know why. She says she often has anxiety and not be bothered to do anything. She says she hates herself. Are often tired and sad that it does not feel as if someone understands her, sometimes not even she herself.
She does not like where she lives. Her self-esteem / self-confidence is at zero, and she did not feel comfortable with her appearance, she says she is fat even though she is not, she often compares himself with others. Even though I told her she should not do it. She is fine and good as she is. But often, I guess it is in itself, it might not matter remained what others say. She does not like to feel so weak, she wishes she could resist and feel strong any time. There are even more that are not fit to write here.
Many thanks for your response and your help
Erina
Hi Erina
Your friend feel bad and there seems to be a condition that is more protracted and deeper than being depressed and anxious and then. Any diagnosis of your friend's problem is not possible to provide based on your brief letter, and it is not what I can offer here.
Perhaps the best way for you to help your buddy may be that you make her aware that we all feel bad sometimes. That feeling is that it will be so for life while it is help to feel better. So she has now, she should not have to have it. There is help available. You are a wise and compassionate friend who is troubling you and want to help her.
A first step on the road to your buddy may be that she sees a doctor or a psychologist at the medical center she belongs to an investigative and expository conversations about what is going on.
The low self-esteem as you look at your mate can make you feel that others do not want a well, or think of one, and may lead to think that others speak ill of one. You write that your friend even among childhood friends as she had known all her life "feel out", and that her friends seem to think that what she "says and does is wrong." When you feel bad, you can become overly critical both to himself and others.
You also tell us about your friend's mood swings. She easily gets irritated, and that friends have shirked her. I understand what you write that it is something new, and not as it has been before. An odd mood of this kind is often a problem in relation to family and friends. Especially if the environment does not understand that the person is not feeling well. It could be understood that it has become awkward and aloof. It can then easily lead to conflicts in the family, or friends withdraw. Disappointed and angry. The dilemma is that when you feel bad you do not feel cope with such incidents, and perhaps do not understand what is happening. It is difficult to solve problems. Both energy and thinking are often significantly reduced.
I want to emphasize that there can be many reasons for it as your friend feel as awkward and as obstacles to her. Then propose to her, of course, fully respecting that it is she who decides how it will be, to meet with a school counselor, doctor or psychologist to talk about what she is experiencing. The first step may be to contact the health center she belongs. Primary care staff have great experience to meet and help people with various psychological disorders. Or you can give the council to your friend, that she contact me for individual private consultation and advice here.
What you might do more for your friend? In addition to encouraging a seek care. We know from studies that people who have problems with anxiety feel better if it is physically active, and despite its spontaneous resistance still do things that previously enjoyed. It is called in psychology for behavioral activation, and for many who try it it is surprisingly helpful. So another way to also help your friend may be to encourage the take walks together, maybe jogging if it fits in, and with a friendly insistence offer her to do what you do normally amuses her. Activation in this way two or three times a week is often enough to atmospheric situation will be improved step by step.
If you hear your friend's expressing a death wish or thoughts about suicide, you propose her to contact Suicide Enlightenment, a chat line, where they can receive support and guidance.
It is a privilege to be your friend trusts you while it can be difficult for you to bear her suffering on your shoulders. Think know if there would be an option for you to talk to her family or adult in your vicinity so that they can help her. I know it's not always so easy to talk to an adult. One can feel that betrays his friend. While it may be a necessary step. You can also for themselves to hear from you with any other organization for support and assistance.
You seem to me a very nice and empathetic person, and that I would say to you is that you should also take care of yourself.
Hugs to you both and hope this helps, and it gets better.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
