Coach have any good tips on how I should do and can train to become better at getting the focus, and be able to concentrate on what I must and should do?

Hi coach

I have a question which concerns that I have and find it difficult to focus and concentrate on the various things that I must and will do.

My mind wanders very easily set off on everything else, especially when I should do something.

Do you have any good tips on how I should do and can train to become better at getting the focus, and be able to concentrate on what I must and should do?

Best regards
Irina


Hi Irina

An effective way to train the focus is to make a meditation where you focus on one thing, for example, their breathing, and constantly raise the focus back there.

Do you think that meditation is not for you? Maybe because you can not "stop thinking" or easily become restless? It's a bit like saying that push ups does not suit you, because you get tired in the arms of them. It's part of the training, and it is the training that is the goal! The goal is not perfection, there is no good or bad, right or wrong. Just drop all judgment and see everything that happens as part of the training.

A focus-training meditation can go to something like this:

• Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Relax.
• You probably pulled off by a thought. It might take a while before you notice it. But suddenly you discover that - oh, a thought! Accept it. It is completely okay. Release thought and focus back to the breath.
• You've done a mental push-ups!
• Continue to focus on your breathing.
• After a while, you may be restless. Discover it. "Now I became restless!" Accept it, let go of it and focus back to the breath.
• Congratulations, you have now made two push-ups!
• In the beginning it may be enough with a few minutes of exercise, then increase to 10 or 20 minutes. Do you get frustrated, you have probably entered a right / wrong / should-think. Discover it, accept it and release it. Over time, the pause between thoughts becomes longer and longer, and the training gives then also rest to the brain.

What you have to gain a strong focus muscle include:

• You can perform well, and find peace, even when you are stressed or nervous.
• You can make your job even when there is noise in the background.
• You can focus on what you want to focus on, which makes it easier to learn new things, work efficiently with a task, keep a good presentation or just be fully present and enjoy the moment.

Good luck with your training!

You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.

How do I find my life goals and meaning of my life, and how can I return to my own spark of life, and finding my own life goals again?

Hello

I have gone astray and lost me completely coherent in my life, and I can not find my live goals now.
I do not know what the meaning of my life is, and what I want to do anymore in and with my life.
I go mostly around in circles, and nothing made any sense more for me.

I hope you have some good advice to give me. About how I come out of this, and get back my zest for life, and find my own purposes for and in my life again.

Thanks in advance for your help and your always good and very wise advices.

Mirjam


Hi Miriam

Every normal person has these thoughts, and everyone feels that way at some time, or several times during their lifetime.

A good way to find out and overcome the dept that is the most important thing in one's life. Is to settle down somewhere where it's really calm and quiet.

Thought Exercise No. 1

Then you can begin to think like this:

You imagine that you are on your way to a funeral. When you come to the funeral and seeing all the people who are there. Then you see that all your work colleagues, friends, and family are all gathered there.

When you get to the coffin, you discover that it is you who is there in the coffin now.

Then you sit down in amongst all those others who have gathered there.

When you are reading the program sheet for the funeral. Do you see that there are several speakers who will talk about. How you were as a family member, friend, and colleague, etc.

Now think of what you think them will say about you today? And when those different people will give for kind of a speech about you. About how you were as a person and what you have done for them and so on.

After this you can think about what you want them different persons instead would hold a speech about you, and what you have meant to them and done for them etc?

Things that's you want them to say about you at your funeral. Are there things that are genuinely and absolutely most important and fundamental for you in your life, and you should aim to try to reach them before your own funeral taking place.

What you are up to the here and now. Will be those overall life goals in your life, and you should live by them in the future.

Thought Exercise No. 2

Now you can do the above mental exercise. But now change the time format. That you have only 24 hours to live before you die. What are the most important people for you, and what you like to have done before you die?

Then you can make the same mental exercise. But, think about what you're going to do, if you would only live a week, a month or a year?

These different mental exercises and expriment with different time horizons. Giving you the answer to how different things are important to you, and how you should be able to prioritize between the different things, and those times when you do not have time for everything in your life.

If none of the above given exercises will help you.

Then you can contact a teraput who is expert in logo therapy. This is because they are especially focused on helping adder people who are just looking for there own purpose of their lives.

Or you can write direkt to me here, and receive private personal and individual existential life advice for you.

Would this not help you. You should contact a psychologist reception. Where you can then get a more complete investigation of your problems, and if you perhaps can eventually suffer from a temporary mental illness, and which now lets you have lost the zest for your life and your purpose in your life.

You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.