2016-09-29
I can not understand why I feel so alone, and what this loneliness feeling can depend on when I am with my own friends nowadays?
Hello life counselor
I feel so alone when I am with my own friends nowadays.
I can not understand why I feel so alone, and what this loneliness feeling can depend on?
Greetings
Liselott
Hello Liselott
You feel alone in your friendships. Maybe because you have had a role in your real friendship bonds that you do not feel comfortable with.
Amanda says that she usually get the position of the listener in their companionship.
- And it's a role that I have begun to tire of. I have several friends who are strong and forward and talk a lot about themselves, and the relationship with them, I find it difficult to break in and take a seat. It tends to be that I get tired of waiting for them to ask "how are you then?"; I fall silent and listen, and try to solve their problems instead. I'm certainly tired of it, but we've been friends for so long now. These roles are cemented as well.
My friends, however, would probably describe me as a kind person who is calm, quiet and listens well, and do not need so much space.
I know I can not expect them to wake up and see that I have more demands on our friendship. I have to start asking yourself the requirements, she says.
Ulrika tells us in turn that she often gets the role of "organizer" in groups.
- Sure, I like to fix and organize things, but I had not imagined that I would get this role full time. I took on the responsibility for our joint Friday breakfasts at work. Since then it has become who I am planner, I expected to stay in everything from purchasing things from IKEA, to know the coffee machine that will be the best in the kitchen, or remember how often should water the flowers, she says.
Becoming aware of the role that you usually take in friendships is the first step towards better friendships!
If you do not feel comfortable with your role, and not feel that you have permission to be "yourself", so it may be the reason why you feel you have too few genuine friends.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I feel so alone when I am with my own friends nowadays.
I can not understand why I feel so alone, and what this loneliness feeling can depend on?
Greetings
Liselott
Hello Liselott
You feel alone in your friendships. Maybe because you have had a role in your real friendship bonds that you do not feel comfortable with.
Amanda says that she usually get the position of the listener in their companionship.
- And it's a role that I have begun to tire of. I have several friends who are strong and forward and talk a lot about themselves, and the relationship with them, I find it difficult to break in and take a seat. It tends to be that I get tired of waiting for them to ask "how are you then?"; I fall silent and listen, and try to solve their problems instead. I'm certainly tired of it, but we've been friends for so long now. These roles are cemented as well.
My friends, however, would probably describe me as a kind person who is calm, quiet and listens well, and do not need so much space.
I know I can not expect them to wake up and see that I have more demands on our friendship. I have to start asking yourself the requirements, she says.
Ulrika tells us in turn that she often gets the role of "organizer" in groups.
- Sure, I like to fix and organize things, but I had not imagined that I would get this role full time. I took on the responsibility for our joint Friday breakfasts at work. Since then it has become who I am planner, I expected to stay in everything from purchasing things from IKEA, to know the coffee machine that will be the best in the kitchen, or remember how often should water the flowers, she says.
Becoming aware of the role that you usually take in friendships is the first step towards better friendships!
If you do not feel comfortable with your role, and not feel that you have permission to be "yourself", so it may be the reason why you feel you have too few genuine friends.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-09-28
2016-09-27
Wisdom words and quotes of: Of children and fools, you get to hear the real truth
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Of children and fools, you get to hear the real truth |
Of children and fools, you get to hear the real truth.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-09-26
2016-09-23
2016-09-22
Do you know what this feeling i have of loneliness I can depend on Mr. life coach
Hello Mr. life coach
I feel very lonely sometimes, even though I have very many friends.
Do you know what this feeling of loneliness can depend on?
With friendly greetings
Olga
Hey Olga
It is not unusual that we can feel the loneliness that we actually have friends.
Kajsa says she can often feel misunderstood by his friends.
- People often tend to take me as a happy little shit. I am the one who is expected to laugh and take life a breeze. Personally, I feel like a serious person who may indeed be close to laughter, but that definitely stands with both feet on the ground.
It can be a pain when I feel a little depressed, "but come Kajsa, you who usually makes all warm and happy", people say.
I also read a lot of books and I'm interested in developing country issues. It seems surprising part, as if I would be terminally stupid or something! I think it's because most people see me as a sociable person. They do not think that I have a very great need to just sit alone and read, she says.
Loneliness Feelings can thus involve you no longer feel comfortable with the role you have been in friendly relations.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I feel very lonely sometimes, even though I have very many friends.
Do you know what this feeling of loneliness can depend on?
With friendly greetings
Olga
Hey Olga
It is not unusual that we can feel the loneliness that we actually have friends.
Kajsa says she can often feel misunderstood by his friends.
- People often tend to take me as a happy little shit. I am the one who is expected to laugh and take life a breeze. Personally, I feel like a serious person who may indeed be close to laughter, but that definitely stands with both feet on the ground.
It can be a pain when I feel a little depressed, "but come Kajsa, you who usually makes all warm and happy", people say.
I also read a lot of books and I'm interested in developing country issues. It seems surprising part, as if I would be terminally stupid or something! I think it's because most people see me as a sociable person. They do not think that I have a very great need to just sit alone and read, she says.
Loneliness Feelings can thus involve you no longer feel comfortable with the role you have been in friendly relations.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-09-21
2016-09-20
Wisdom words and quotes of: Work promotes health and prosperity, and prevents many occasions of sin
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Work promotes health and prosperity, and prevents many occasions of sin |
Work promotes health and prosperity, and prevents many occasions of sin.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-09-19
2016-09-16
2016-09-15
Why are so many people alone and feel lonely today I wonder?
Hello life coach
I have a question that you probably can answer.
Why are so many people alone and feel lonely today?
Thank you for your response to my question in advance!
Sincerely
Dolly
Hi Dolly
"New solitude" call it sometimes, when in the media and debate forums to discuss how socially passive technological progress has made us.
We Facebooking, tweeting, emailing and texting instead of meeting face to face.
We content ourselves with friendship served to display call dinnerware, perhaps because we think it's either this, or not to be "seen" at all?
The explanation for our so-called nyensamhet is that we are moving more than ever.
Women on average are expected to make it twelve times in their lifetime, according to statistics from Statistics Sweden. An average man has time because of their shorter life "only" eleven.
When our friends move
But even that which is his hometown faithful life can experience the social life suddenly go from summer to autumn, when the friends move or grow out of one the other way.
Christian explains that after ten years in Stockholm moved back to his hometown and thought that the friends would probably not be a big deal. He had been so easy to make friends before. He was not an oddball. Additionally lived there surely remain friends from the past ...
But it would appear that the vast majority had moved away from their home, just like him, and at first he tried therefore to keep alive the friendships he had made in Stockholm.
- But they disintegrated in just a few months when not that natural touch was there anymore. It's really scary so fast it went, he says.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I have a question that you probably can answer.
Why are so many people alone and feel lonely today?
Thank you for your response to my question in advance!
Sincerely
Dolly
Hi Dolly
"New solitude" call it sometimes, when in the media and debate forums to discuss how socially passive technological progress has made us.
We Facebooking, tweeting, emailing and texting instead of meeting face to face.
We content ourselves with friendship served to display call dinnerware, perhaps because we think it's either this, or not to be "seen" at all?
The explanation for our so-called nyensamhet is that we are moving more than ever.
Women on average are expected to make it twelve times in their lifetime, according to statistics from Statistics Sweden. An average man has time because of their shorter life "only" eleven.
When our friends move
But even that which is his hometown faithful life can experience the social life suddenly go from summer to autumn, when the friends move or grow out of one the other way.
Christian explains that after ten years in Stockholm moved back to his hometown and thought that the friends would probably not be a big deal. He had been so easy to make friends before. He was not an oddball. Additionally lived there surely remain friends from the past ...
But it would appear that the vast majority had moved away from their home, just like him, and at first he tried therefore to keep alive the friendships he had made in Stockholm.
- But they disintegrated in just a few months when not that natural touch was there anymore. It's really scary so fast it went, he says.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-09-14
2016-09-13
Wisdom words and quotes of: Angry cats get torn skins
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Angry cats get torn skins |
Angry cats get torn skins.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-09-12
2016-09-09
2016-09-08
I feel confused and my question are what real friendship is, and how do I know when we are real friends? Here are 8 tips and answers for those who want to find new friends!
Hello Mr. life coach
I often feel confused about how I feel when I'm with different people that I meet.
So I wonder what is real friendship? How do I know we are real friends?
Grateful for an answer to my question here.
Mariam
Hi Miriam
It is easy to be pompous and a little romantic strung when you talk about friendship.
Perhaps you're thinking that true friends are those who, like just take you. You can pick up where you left off, though you have not seen for several months. And when you first met, I knew both of you at once that just the two of you would become good friends ...
It may be just such exaggerated expectations of friendship behind you actually feel rather lonely today ...
Lillian B Rubin, American social psychologist and psychotherapist based in San Francisco, is a world renowned expert on friendship. She hits a happy kind of "everyday friendship", as we have with colleagues at work, or with a workout buddy as we jump in pace with. "All these people that we are a bit conciliatory call 'familiar' also has a great value in life," she says.
Familiarize living is as important as soul mates
Actually, we should not compare them with each other or the rate much. We simply need all kinds of friends. Many times, every-day relations develop into a more intimate friendship relationship later. Some friendships will take several years to mature up, but could then, on the other hand, keeping the longer, perhaps for life.
Hard to know if one's friends "for real"
Complicating friendships is that it is quite difficult to know if they really have become friends or not.
When Lillian B Rubin did interviews and followed up friendships threads across acquaintance circuits, so she discovered that the entire 64 percent not at all mentioned the person they themselves had said was their best or close friend. 64% of your friends see you, maybe not as a friend at all. Horrible thought!
Should we go back to the primitive of friendship and require mixed blood and two tightly compressed thumbs? Or is it perhaps time to see the friendship in a new way? Perhaps as a mood we are in, and that no other more than we can tell whether it is genuine or not?
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I often feel confused about how I feel when I'm with different people that I meet.
So I wonder what is real friendship? How do I know we are real friends?
Grateful for an answer to my question here.
Mariam
Hi Miriam
It is easy to be pompous and a little romantic strung when you talk about friendship.
Perhaps you're thinking that true friends are those who, like just take you. You can pick up where you left off, though you have not seen for several months. And when you first met, I knew both of you at once that just the two of you would become good friends ...
It may be just such exaggerated expectations of friendship behind you actually feel rather lonely today ...
Lillian B Rubin, American social psychologist and psychotherapist based in San Francisco, is a world renowned expert on friendship. She hits a happy kind of "everyday friendship", as we have with colleagues at work, or with a workout buddy as we jump in pace with. "All these people that we are a bit conciliatory call 'familiar' also has a great value in life," she says.
Familiarize living is as important as soul mates
Actually, we should not compare them with each other or the rate much. We simply need all kinds of friends. Many times, every-day relations develop into a more intimate friendship relationship later. Some friendships will take several years to mature up, but could then, on the other hand, keeping the longer, perhaps for life.
Hard to know if one's friends "for real"
Complicating friendships is that it is quite difficult to know if they really have become friends or not.
When Lillian B Rubin did interviews and followed up friendships threads across acquaintance circuits, so she discovered that the entire 64 percent not at all mentioned the person they themselves had said was their best or close friend. 64% of your friends see you, maybe not as a friend at all. Horrible thought!
Should we go back to the primitive of friendship and require mixed blood and two tightly compressed thumbs? Or is it perhaps time to see the friendship in a new way? Perhaps as a mood we are in, and that no other more than we can tell whether it is genuine or not?
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-09-07
2016-09-06
Wisdom words and quotes of: Attack is the best defense
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Attack is the best defense |
Attack is the best defense.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-09-05
2016-09-02
2016-09-01
Do you feel alone? Here are 4 reasons to loneliness, and 5 strategies against loneliness for you
Hi coach
I feel so lonely.
I have no friends left and now I feel very lonely, and it has gone so far in my loneliness so that I have now lost me completely, so I write to you here now.
I hope you can help me to tell me how I can find back on the road again, and so I get new friends again.
Richard
Hi Richard
Do you feel alone? You're not alone! Loneliness is very common and most people feel lonely at some point in life. In this article, we review what loneliness is, the causes of loneliness and how to handle it.
What exactly is loneliness?
Loneliness is a feeling of dissatisfaction, and that something is missing, that arise when you do not have the degree of social contact that you would like to have. Everyone can feel alone now and then, but there are also many who feel loneliness most of the time. It is customary to divide the loneliness in two different groups, social loneliness and emotional loneliness.
Social loneliness
Social loneliness means that you lack a social network, you feel lonely because you do not have any (or as many as you would like) friends, work mates, family members or relatives to spend time with. There are those who have a rich social life on the job, but no friends at leisure, and they are those who feel lonely at work / at school but have friends and family to spend time with their spare time. The feeling of loneliness It is not based on the number of friends, but if you feel satisfied with their social network, or if you miss more people to socialize or interact with. One can sit in a basement, and never talk to anyone and still not feel lonely.
Emotional loneliness
Emotional loneliness occurs when you lack a deep relationship, for example, when you miss someone to really talk to, someone you can tell everything to and / or someone you know loves one for who they are. This sort of loneliness is common to feel even if you have many people to socialize with. I have heard many people describe it as they stand in the middle of a party with a bunch of good friends and acquaintances around them, but they still feel the loneliest in the world. For many guys can feel superficial interaction with the kid gang, and they lack someone to have a deeper relationship with. In this situation many longs for a girlfriend, who they think can fulfill the need for emotional intimacy.
The causes of loneliness
Loneliness can be caused by many different things, and often it may be several reasons that combined creates great loneliness. Generally, one can say that loneliness is caused by any of these four categories:
1. Deficiencies in relationships
Deficiencies in relationships can occur when you do not have any or have relationships with other people, when you feel an outsider or when forced into isolation because they become ostracized or offset (in the family, at work / school, or their friends ).
2. Change in the relationships
Loneliness can also be caused by relationships have changed. It can be anything from a outgrow their friends with age (for example, changing interests, or that one provide family), in order to move from their social network or separating from a partner and suddenly find themselves without both companion and socializing.
3. You see yourself as a single person
If you think of yourself as a single person, it is a property you have that you can not change, so it is often easy to get caught up in loneliness. It may be that seeing yourself as a loner, someone who nobody likes, or as "the eternal single".
4. Lack of social skills
Loneliness may also be due to the lack of social skills, and therefore find it difficult to form relationships with others. It may be that you do not know how to start or continue a conversation with others in a relaxed manner, that it is incredibly shy or even have social phobia, or that you have a negative attitude or even behave badly toward Other.
Strategies to deal with loneliness
Loneliness is like saying something very common and most people feel loneliness in some degree during one or more periods of life. However, there are specific things you can do to manage her loneliness so that it feels better and so that it could ultimately reduce or disappear completely. Here are four successful strategies for dealing with loneliness:
1. Make a rational analysis
Look at your situation from the outside and try to make an objective, rational analysis of the situation. What is your loneliness and what you could do to change your situation? Faced with social situations, whether you experience them as dangerous / annoying, think of the advantages compared to disadvantages and see if the potential gains can motivate you to go there / talk more with people (or what you need to do to reduce loneliness).
2. Stop blame personal characteristics
Try to find what situations or behaviors that create loneliness, instead of thinking "I'm like this as a person." Loneliness is not an innate characteristic, you are not "doomed" to eternal loneliness because of who you are. You can change your situation if you really want and make sure to have the mindset.
3. Make positive to other people
You will not be less lonely if you are bitter and negative towards others. Make sure to keep a positive attitude toward others (even in your own thoughts!), So it is much easier for the people you meet want to have contact or make friends with you.
4. Re-evaluate your loneliness
Instead of seeing loneliness as something negative, you can learn to re-evaluate it and instead appreciate the solitude you have. Being alone can be somewhat useful as it provides a greater opportunity to experience their inner world and to get to know himself.
5. Focus on friendship rather than love
Focus on acquiring or maintaining good friends, instead of putting all our energy on finding The One. It is usually much easier (and with less risk of a broken heart) to find friends than a companion. In addition, to enter into a relationship with a girl with the intention that you will not have to be lonely is not exactly the best breeding ground for love.
Comment if you ever felt alone and what you think your loneliness is, or was due. In this way we can help each other to understand that we are not alone in our solitude.
And good luck to everybody to get rid of your loneliness!
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I feel so lonely.
I have no friends left and now I feel very lonely, and it has gone so far in my loneliness so that I have now lost me completely, so I write to you here now.
I hope you can help me to tell me how I can find back on the road again, and so I get new friends again.
Richard
Hi Richard
Do you feel alone? You're not alone! Loneliness is very common and most people feel lonely at some point in life. In this article, we review what loneliness is, the causes of loneliness and how to handle it.
What exactly is loneliness?
Loneliness is a feeling of dissatisfaction, and that something is missing, that arise when you do not have the degree of social contact that you would like to have. Everyone can feel alone now and then, but there are also many who feel loneliness most of the time. It is customary to divide the loneliness in two different groups, social loneliness and emotional loneliness.
Social loneliness
Social loneliness means that you lack a social network, you feel lonely because you do not have any (or as many as you would like) friends, work mates, family members or relatives to spend time with. There are those who have a rich social life on the job, but no friends at leisure, and they are those who feel lonely at work / at school but have friends and family to spend time with their spare time. The feeling of loneliness It is not based on the number of friends, but if you feel satisfied with their social network, or if you miss more people to socialize or interact with. One can sit in a basement, and never talk to anyone and still not feel lonely.
Emotional loneliness
Emotional loneliness occurs when you lack a deep relationship, for example, when you miss someone to really talk to, someone you can tell everything to and / or someone you know loves one for who they are. This sort of loneliness is common to feel even if you have many people to socialize with. I have heard many people describe it as they stand in the middle of a party with a bunch of good friends and acquaintances around them, but they still feel the loneliest in the world. For many guys can feel superficial interaction with the kid gang, and they lack someone to have a deeper relationship with. In this situation many longs for a girlfriend, who they think can fulfill the need for emotional intimacy.
The causes of loneliness
Loneliness can be caused by many different things, and often it may be several reasons that combined creates great loneliness. Generally, one can say that loneliness is caused by any of these four categories:
1. Deficiencies in relationships
Deficiencies in relationships can occur when you do not have any or have relationships with other people, when you feel an outsider or when forced into isolation because they become ostracized or offset (in the family, at work / school, or their friends ).
2. Change in the relationships
Loneliness can also be caused by relationships have changed. It can be anything from a outgrow their friends with age (for example, changing interests, or that one provide family), in order to move from their social network or separating from a partner and suddenly find themselves without both companion and socializing.
3. You see yourself as a single person
If you think of yourself as a single person, it is a property you have that you can not change, so it is often easy to get caught up in loneliness. It may be that seeing yourself as a loner, someone who nobody likes, or as "the eternal single".
4. Lack of social skills
Loneliness may also be due to the lack of social skills, and therefore find it difficult to form relationships with others. It may be that you do not know how to start or continue a conversation with others in a relaxed manner, that it is incredibly shy or even have social phobia, or that you have a negative attitude or even behave badly toward Other.
Strategies to deal with loneliness
Loneliness is like saying something very common and most people feel loneliness in some degree during one or more periods of life. However, there are specific things you can do to manage her loneliness so that it feels better and so that it could ultimately reduce or disappear completely. Here are four successful strategies for dealing with loneliness:
1. Make a rational analysis
Look at your situation from the outside and try to make an objective, rational analysis of the situation. What is your loneliness and what you could do to change your situation? Faced with social situations, whether you experience them as dangerous / annoying, think of the advantages compared to disadvantages and see if the potential gains can motivate you to go there / talk more with people (or what you need to do to reduce loneliness).
2. Stop blame personal characteristics
Try to find what situations or behaviors that create loneliness, instead of thinking "I'm like this as a person." Loneliness is not an innate characteristic, you are not "doomed" to eternal loneliness because of who you are. You can change your situation if you really want and make sure to have the mindset.
3. Make positive to other people
You will not be less lonely if you are bitter and negative towards others. Make sure to keep a positive attitude toward others (even in your own thoughts!), So it is much easier for the people you meet want to have contact or make friends with you.
4. Re-evaluate your loneliness
Instead of seeing loneliness as something negative, you can learn to re-evaluate it and instead appreciate the solitude you have. Being alone can be somewhat useful as it provides a greater opportunity to experience their inner world and to get to know himself.
5. Focus on friendship rather than love
Focus on acquiring or maintaining good friends, instead of putting all our energy on finding The One. It is usually much easier (and with less risk of a broken heart) to find friends than a companion. In addition, to enter into a relationship with a girl with the intention that you will not have to be lonely is not exactly the best breeding ground for love.
Comment if you ever felt alone and what you think your loneliness is, or was due. In this way we can help each other to understand that we are not alone in our solitude.
And good luck to everybody to get rid of your loneliness!
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
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