2016-01-28
How should I help my friend who feel so bad?
Hello Mr. life coach and therapist
Have a friend who feels awful. Do not really know what to say or do to help her. Know that she is very sensitive and takes very offended easily. Big and small things.
She has lost contact with several of her friends, she feels hurt and disappointed because it feels like they always think that it is she who does / says wrong. Sometimes feel out among his childhood friends she had known all her life, and it extremely painful. A friend has completely stopped talking to her, the reason is quite unclear and it was still a good friend that she shared several memories.
She has quite large mood swings, irritability, and can lie and cry often, sometimes for something that happened but sometimes she does not even know why. She says she often has anxiety and not be bothered to do anything. She says she hates herself. Are often tired and sad that it does not feel as if someone understands her, sometimes not even she herself.
She does not like where she lives. Her self-esteem / self-confidence is at zero, and she did not feel comfortable with her appearance, she says she is fat even though she is not, she often compares himself with others. Even though I told her she should not do it. She is fine and good as she is. But often, I guess it is in itself, it might not matter remained what others say. She does not like to feel so weak, she wishes she could resist and feel strong any time. There are even more that are not fit to write here.
Many thanks for your response and your help
Erina
Hi Erina
Your friend feel bad and there seems to be a condition that is more protracted and deeper than being depressed and anxious and then. Any diagnosis of your friend's problem is not possible to provide based on your brief letter, and it is not what I can offer here.
Perhaps the best way for you to help your buddy may be that you make her aware that we all feel bad sometimes. That feeling is that it will be so for life while it is help to feel better. So she has now, she should not have to have it. There is help available. You are a wise and compassionate friend who is troubling you and want to help her.
A first step on the road to your buddy may be that she sees a doctor or a psychologist at the medical center she belongs to an investigative and expository conversations about what is going on.
The low self-esteem as you look at your mate can make you feel that others do not want a well, or think of one, and may lead to think that others speak ill of one. You write that your friend even among childhood friends as she had known all her life "feel out", and that her friends seem to think that what she "says and does is wrong." When you feel bad, you can become overly critical both to himself and others.
You also tell us about your friend's mood swings. She easily gets irritated, and that friends have shirked her. I understand what you write that it is something new, and not as it has been before. An odd mood of this kind is often a problem in relation to family and friends. Especially if the environment does not understand that the person is not feeling well. It could be understood that it has become awkward and aloof. It can then easily lead to conflicts in the family, or friends withdraw. Disappointed and angry. The dilemma is that when you feel bad you do not feel cope with such incidents, and perhaps do not understand what is happening. It is difficult to solve problems. Both energy and thinking are often significantly reduced.
I want to emphasize that there can be many reasons for it as your friend feel as awkward and as obstacles to her. Then propose to her, of course, fully respecting that it is she who decides how it will be, to meet with a school counselor, doctor or psychologist to talk about what she is experiencing. The first step may be to contact the health center she belongs. Primary care staff have great experience to meet and help people with various psychological disorders. Or you can give the council to your friend, that she contact me for individual private consultation and advice here.
What you might do more for your friend? In addition to encouraging a seek care. We know from studies that people who have problems with anxiety feel better if it is physically active, and despite its spontaneous resistance still do things that previously enjoyed. It is called in psychology for behavioral activation, and for many who try it it is surprisingly helpful. So another way to also help your friend may be to encourage the take walks together, maybe jogging if it fits in, and with a friendly insistence offer her to do what you do normally amuses her. Activation in this way two or three times a week is often enough to atmospheric situation will be improved step by step.
If you hear your friend's expressing a death wish or thoughts about suicide, you propose her to contact Suicide Enlightenment, a chat line, where they can receive support and guidance.
It is a privilege to be your friend trusts you while it can be difficult for you to bear her suffering on your shoulders. Think know if there would be an option for you to talk to her family or adult in your vicinity so that they can help her. I know it's not always so easy to talk to an adult. One can feel that betrays his friend. While it may be a necessary step. You can also for themselves to hear from you with any other organization for support and assistance.
You seem to me a very nice and empathetic person, and that I would say to you is that you should also take care of yourself.
Hugs to you both and hope this helps, and it gets better.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
Have a friend who feels awful. Do not really know what to say or do to help her. Know that she is very sensitive and takes very offended easily. Big and small things.
She has lost contact with several of her friends, she feels hurt and disappointed because it feels like they always think that it is she who does / says wrong. Sometimes feel out among his childhood friends she had known all her life, and it extremely painful. A friend has completely stopped talking to her, the reason is quite unclear and it was still a good friend that she shared several memories.
She has quite large mood swings, irritability, and can lie and cry often, sometimes for something that happened but sometimes she does not even know why. She says she often has anxiety and not be bothered to do anything. She says she hates herself. Are often tired and sad that it does not feel as if someone understands her, sometimes not even she herself.
She does not like where she lives. Her self-esteem / self-confidence is at zero, and she did not feel comfortable with her appearance, she says she is fat even though she is not, she often compares himself with others. Even though I told her she should not do it. She is fine and good as she is. But often, I guess it is in itself, it might not matter remained what others say. She does not like to feel so weak, she wishes she could resist and feel strong any time. There are even more that are not fit to write here.
Many thanks for your response and your help
Erina
Hi Erina
Your friend feel bad and there seems to be a condition that is more protracted and deeper than being depressed and anxious and then. Any diagnosis of your friend's problem is not possible to provide based on your brief letter, and it is not what I can offer here.
Perhaps the best way for you to help your buddy may be that you make her aware that we all feel bad sometimes. That feeling is that it will be so for life while it is help to feel better. So she has now, she should not have to have it. There is help available. You are a wise and compassionate friend who is troubling you and want to help her.
A first step on the road to your buddy may be that she sees a doctor or a psychologist at the medical center she belongs to an investigative and expository conversations about what is going on.
The low self-esteem as you look at your mate can make you feel that others do not want a well, or think of one, and may lead to think that others speak ill of one. You write that your friend even among childhood friends as she had known all her life "feel out", and that her friends seem to think that what she "says and does is wrong." When you feel bad, you can become overly critical both to himself and others.
You also tell us about your friend's mood swings. She easily gets irritated, and that friends have shirked her. I understand what you write that it is something new, and not as it has been before. An odd mood of this kind is often a problem in relation to family and friends. Especially if the environment does not understand that the person is not feeling well. It could be understood that it has become awkward and aloof. It can then easily lead to conflicts in the family, or friends withdraw. Disappointed and angry. The dilemma is that when you feel bad you do not feel cope with such incidents, and perhaps do not understand what is happening. It is difficult to solve problems. Both energy and thinking are often significantly reduced.
I want to emphasize that there can be many reasons for it as your friend feel as awkward and as obstacles to her. Then propose to her, of course, fully respecting that it is she who decides how it will be, to meet with a school counselor, doctor or psychologist to talk about what she is experiencing. The first step may be to contact the health center she belongs. Primary care staff have great experience to meet and help people with various psychological disorders. Or you can give the council to your friend, that she contact me for individual private consultation and advice here.
What you might do more for your friend? In addition to encouraging a seek care. We know from studies that people who have problems with anxiety feel better if it is physically active, and despite its spontaneous resistance still do things that previously enjoyed. It is called in psychology for behavioral activation, and for many who try it it is surprisingly helpful. So another way to also help your friend may be to encourage the take walks together, maybe jogging if it fits in, and with a friendly insistence offer her to do what you do normally amuses her. Activation in this way two or three times a week is often enough to atmospheric situation will be improved step by step.
If you hear your friend's expressing a death wish or thoughts about suicide, you propose her to contact Suicide Enlightenment, a chat line, where they can receive support and guidance.
It is a privilege to be your friend trusts you while it can be difficult for you to bear her suffering on your shoulders. Think know if there would be an option for you to talk to her family or adult in your vicinity so that they can help her. I know it's not always so easy to talk to an adult. One can feel that betrays his friend. While it may be a necessary step. You can also for themselves to hear from you with any other organization for support and assistance.
You seem to me a very nice and empathetic person, and that I would say to you is that you should also take care of yourself.
Hugs to you both and hope this helps, and it gets better.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
2016-01-27
2016-01-26
Lyrics, poetry, poem and verse of: Right or Left?
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| Lyrics, poetry, poem and verse of: Right or Left? |
Right or Left?
How will I know which is right and left?
How will I know which way it is?
How will I know which way I should go?
It is best to go straight ahead, across the rest of my life.
Otherwise, my life will start going backwards instead.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-01-25
2016-01-22
2016-01-21
How do I as an adult child in the family, to get my parents to realize their own good?
Hello
I study now and no longer live at home, I have a younger brother and our parents are still married.
Both my brother and I have always had a better relationship with our mother, she is more open and easier to talk to than our father. However, I believe that none of us doubt that he loves us as much, he shows it's just not the same.
Now that I no longer live at home, and my parents have grown older, I think I can see more and more cracks between them than I have ever done and this makes me incredibly sad. Dad is 70 years old and retired some time ago and my mother 10 years younger, she is well inside final years on the job. I do not think they really understood that they actually are getting older with the years.
Both mom and dad are home-loving and has spent a lot of time to renovate and fix the house and garden. They also are traveling and do some things together and often seem to be happy together. But the moments in between, I think I see, more and more, becoming longer.
Mother is the energetic of them and would like to see things happen quickly, but since the father is retired and at home will be the father she put the information on. Dad has always had their own will, even more now than in recent times, and do things at their own pace and with their priorities. This interferes with mom a lot, and she can stand and almost cursing and screaming at my father, who in turn closes again and becomes silent, as he always has been.
My father is not a person who easily gets upset or discuss things. Our family is no family that discusses things, Mom control and planning, for it is no one who has set himself up against her. Is there anything to say about my father, so it is that he's incredibly kind, for good and for evil. No one really knows what Dad is doing at home all day. Take for example the cleaning. Mum thinks that because the father is at home, he would be able to clean occasionally. But often it happens like nothing and it sometimes ends with the mother gets angry and grabs it in his day, when instead they could be out on the town, or get involved together in the garden.
Dad has a couple of times to say that now that he is retired. He phase do what he wants, and does not want to budge from that. He loves to cook, and do not hesitate to use very fatty products. It did not concern us as much as if he had spent more calories than what he ingests. He does not, Dad's condition is lousy. He has a gym membership that he never uses, and he is struggling to keep pace with us if we are out walking. He gets out of breath from walking the stairs at home. Yes, he almost always sounds as if he has a strained breathing. He goes to the controls on the Sofia-home and they said that his numbers looked good, but that fitness could be better.
The rest of the family are worried about Dad, but any attempt to talk to him met with deaf ears. It plays like no matter if we take up the whole family when we were sitting and eating dinner or if one of us tries to talk to him, the two of you, he makes it feel like it's not our problem and that we have not something to do with it. He simply do not want to talk about it.
This has been mother to realize she might not be able to do all the things she has been looking forward to with Dad when she becomes a pensioner. She has expressed desires to go out and backpacking with my dad, but I do not think he will cope with it in its present condition.
His unwillingness to change has led her to reconnect with old friends, which I am happy.
I want horrible well try to do something for them, but I do not know which end to start. How will anyone be able to sit down and get my father to talk about how he thinks about the future, as he seems to do everything to avoid it?
He has never really opened up, and I feel sorry for him, but do not know how I'm going to approach him but to make him feel uncomfortable or cornered. How do we get him to realize that we are worried for him and do not want to rubbish him?
I am will be grateful for your answer
Andy
Hi Andy
Thank you for your letter, you have over the years started to understand more and more about how it works between your parents. Surely you felt it even before, but it is now starting to be able to articulate go up to yourself what it is.
As an adult has you a different capacity to read and understand. Perhaps also the fact that you no longer live at home, and that is has received a certain distance. This has made it possible for you to see how it is.
You seem worried and distressed. I can understand that you are there. However, the fact is that there is very little you can do to influence to a changing direction. Your father has the right to choose how he wants to live. Sure, you might think that exercise is good for everyone - and that's it! - But you still can not get your dad to exercise however much you want. If he will not, he must not.
He is also right that he can decide for himself what he will do in his retirement. How your parents distributes work at home with shopping and cooking, cleaning and gardening concerns only them.
Your dad does not want to talk to you about these things, you mean. Maybe he feels the pressure and push him to do and be in a certain way that he does not want? Perhaps he himself, in different ways, concerned about their future.
Your parents must have the right to their own lives. Your dad wants to slow down and take it easy. Your mother is full of adventure and energy. So it is and there is not anything you can do about it. Possibly play the age difference now in a different way than before.
Let them have what they want both of you! Encourage them to live as they want.
Maybe your mom needs support and encouragement to do what she wants on their own or with friends. Maybe your dad relieved to get your support in getting to have it as he thinks feels good. There is only one way - to let people have the life that they feel they want - no matter what others think.
Difference makes it of course if there are adults living in a way that harms children living at home, but it's not for you. Let go and all responsibility regarding your parents' lives and focus instead on finding the life that you think feels good and right for you.
That is what we get the best feelings of in the end.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
I study now and no longer live at home, I have a younger brother and our parents are still married.
Both my brother and I have always had a better relationship with our mother, she is more open and easier to talk to than our father. However, I believe that none of us doubt that he loves us as much, he shows it's just not the same.
Now that I no longer live at home, and my parents have grown older, I think I can see more and more cracks between them than I have ever done and this makes me incredibly sad. Dad is 70 years old and retired some time ago and my mother 10 years younger, she is well inside final years on the job. I do not think they really understood that they actually are getting older with the years.
Both mom and dad are home-loving and has spent a lot of time to renovate and fix the house and garden. They also are traveling and do some things together and often seem to be happy together. But the moments in between, I think I see, more and more, becoming longer.
Mother is the energetic of them and would like to see things happen quickly, but since the father is retired and at home will be the father she put the information on. Dad has always had their own will, even more now than in recent times, and do things at their own pace and with their priorities. This interferes with mom a lot, and she can stand and almost cursing and screaming at my father, who in turn closes again and becomes silent, as he always has been.
My father is not a person who easily gets upset or discuss things. Our family is no family that discusses things, Mom control and planning, for it is no one who has set himself up against her. Is there anything to say about my father, so it is that he's incredibly kind, for good and for evil. No one really knows what Dad is doing at home all day. Take for example the cleaning. Mum thinks that because the father is at home, he would be able to clean occasionally. But often it happens like nothing and it sometimes ends with the mother gets angry and grabs it in his day, when instead they could be out on the town, or get involved together in the garden.
Dad has a couple of times to say that now that he is retired. He phase do what he wants, and does not want to budge from that. He loves to cook, and do not hesitate to use very fatty products. It did not concern us as much as if he had spent more calories than what he ingests. He does not, Dad's condition is lousy. He has a gym membership that he never uses, and he is struggling to keep pace with us if we are out walking. He gets out of breath from walking the stairs at home. Yes, he almost always sounds as if he has a strained breathing. He goes to the controls on the Sofia-home and they said that his numbers looked good, but that fitness could be better.
The rest of the family are worried about Dad, but any attempt to talk to him met with deaf ears. It plays like no matter if we take up the whole family when we were sitting and eating dinner or if one of us tries to talk to him, the two of you, he makes it feel like it's not our problem and that we have not something to do with it. He simply do not want to talk about it.
This has been mother to realize she might not be able to do all the things she has been looking forward to with Dad when she becomes a pensioner. She has expressed desires to go out and backpacking with my dad, but I do not think he will cope with it in its present condition.
His unwillingness to change has led her to reconnect with old friends, which I am happy.
I want horrible well try to do something for them, but I do not know which end to start. How will anyone be able to sit down and get my father to talk about how he thinks about the future, as he seems to do everything to avoid it?
He has never really opened up, and I feel sorry for him, but do not know how I'm going to approach him but to make him feel uncomfortable or cornered. How do we get him to realize that we are worried for him and do not want to rubbish him?
I am will be grateful for your answer
Andy
Hi Andy
Thank you for your letter, you have over the years started to understand more and more about how it works between your parents. Surely you felt it even before, but it is now starting to be able to articulate go up to yourself what it is.
As an adult has you a different capacity to read and understand. Perhaps also the fact that you no longer live at home, and that is has received a certain distance. This has made it possible for you to see how it is.
You seem worried and distressed. I can understand that you are there. However, the fact is that there is very little you can do to influence to a changing direction. Your father has the right to choose how he wants to live. Sure, you might think that exercise is good for everyone - and that's it! - But you still can not get your dad to exercise however much you want. If he will not, he must not.
He is also right that he can decide for himself what he will do in his retirement. How your parents distributes work at home with shopping and cooking, cleaning and gardening concerns only them.
Your dad does not want to talk to you about these things, you mean. Maybe he feels the pressure and push him to do and be in a certain way that he does not want? Perhaps he himself, in different ways, concerned about their future.
Your parents must have the right to their own lives. Your dad wants to slow down and take it easy. Your mother is full of adventure and energy. So it is and there is not anything you can do about it. Possibly play the age difference now in a different way than before.
Let them have what they want both of you! Encourage them to live as they want.
Maybe your mom needs support and encouragement to do what she wants on their own or with friends. Maybe your dad relieved to get your support in getting to have it as he thinks feels good. There is only one way - to let people have the life that they feel they want - no matter what others think.
Difference makes it of course if there are adults living in a way that harms children living at home, but it's not for you. Let go and all responsibility regarding your parents' lives and focus instead on finding the life that you think feels good and right for you.
That is what we get the best feelings of in the end.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
2016-01-20
2016-01-19
#Lyrics #poetry #poem and #verse and painting of: Black & Wite
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| Lyrics, poetry, poem and verse and painting of: Black and Wite by Mr Chris Savage |
Lyrics, poetry, poem and verse and painting of: Black and Wite by Mr Chris Savage
Black & Wite
Beginning of the End
Up or down
For and against
Spring or fall
Summer to winter
Living receiving die
Win or lose
Friends against enemies
Love and hate
Is it all just Black or White through your life?
By author / writer and artist painter Mr Chris Savage
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2016-01-18
2016-01-15
2016-01-14
Why can I become suddenly very impulsive and so extremely rude to people in my environment?
Hello
I am a social and happy woman in the 40. Have a partner and two small children. For the most part I am a happy, friendly and helpful person. I'm incredibly social, I need to hang out with friends and I like people. But sometimes I suddenly reversed and turned into a nasty person with a horrible attitude. And it often strikes quite strangers on the street or in the shops.
Situations that trigger this, if I see injustice, or if things do not go as planned or if staff do wrong. Then I can be very impulsive and nasty.
I always have to say things to people, I is straight to the point and can not keep his mouth. It just jumps out, I can not let what happened pass.
Additionally, when I criticize or say things I can sound very rude, angry and as people say "aggressive". If the person I meet is calm and try to understand me, everything ends well. But if it is a bit the same as me, Then it can degenerate into terrible trouble. I become more and more agitated and trapped in a tunnel and do not care about what happens around.
I have tried to do differently, and received advice from family and friends. For example, I tried to count to ten, I have tried not to bother me and let the events pass. But nothing helps, I may as well not control me.
I have received several reprimands at work right for the response against colleagues in other departments when I tried to point out their mistakes. All I want is that people learn from their mistakes and not repeat them again. But it does not so good sometimes.
Those who already know me know how I am and we are laughing at me and how I am sometimes. But those who do not know me will surely shock.
I am aware of how I am, but do not know how I can help myself. Please help me!
Saya
Hello Saya
I can understand that you will be amazed about yourself and how you suddenly can become. From that usually be a kind and thoughtful person you can without notice yourself getting aggressive and nasty. It's like it's not you, that is the person you want to be and who you want to see you.
But even the part that jumps out sometimes you are - even if a part that you do not appreciate, and you do not understand.
We all have different parts within us. It is absolutely as it should. The more contact we have with our different subpersonalities the better and the easier it will be for us. We do not know our different personalities, they live their own life just as you describe. We may find that we suddenly gets taken over by something we do not recognize.
It's a part of you that becomes extremely riled up when you face injustice, when things do not turn out as you intended, or a professional person doing wrong. Then pull the unpleasant started and want to educate and bring order.
Who is this that you react? To be able to deal with your concern, it is good if you can get to know this part of yourself that you would rather shunned. But then happens the opposite, namely, that it really lives its own life and rule the roost in a way that you do not like.
So who is this part of you that goes off at these times? Have you been the victim of injustice as a child? Do you need a lot of control? How do you feel within yourself before you react with anger?
Try to capture the emotion and understand you based on it. It is the clue that leads further and deepen insights into the angry part of you.
Another thing you can think about is where that part goes when the anger subsided. Maybe you can be in contact with it right now and understand its motivations, function and purpose. Who is she who wants to bring order and do it with anger and aggression?
Good luck whit your journey.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
I am a social and happy woman in the 40. Have a partner and two small children. For the most part I am a happy, friendly and helpful person. I'm incredibly social, I need to hang out with friends and I like people. But sometimes I suddenly reversed and turned into a nasty person with a horrible attitude. And it often strikes quite strangers on the street or in the shops.
Situations that trigger this, if I see injustice, or if things do not go as planned or if staff do wrong. Then I can be very impulsive and nasty.
I always have to say things to people, I is straight to the point and can not keep his mouth. It just jumps out, I can not let what happened pass.
Additionally, when I criticize or say things I can sound very rude, angry and as people say "aggressive". If the person I meet is calm and try to understand me, everything ends well. But if it is a bit the same as me, Then it can degenerate into terrible trouble. I become more and more agitated and trapped in a tunnel and do not care about what happens around.
I have tried to do differently, and received advice from family and friends. For example, I tried to count to ten, I have tried not to bother me and let the events pass. But nothing helps, I may as well not control me.
I have received several reprimands at work right for the response against colleagues in other departments when I tried to point out their mistakes. All I want is that people learn from their mistakes and not repeat them again. But it does not so good sometimes.
Those who already know me know how I am and we are laughing at me and how I am sometimes. But those who do not know me will surely shock.
I am aware of how I am, but do not know how I can help myself. Please help me!
Saya
Hello Saya
I can understand that you will be amazed about yourself and how you suddenly can become. From that usually be a kind and thoughtful person you can without notice yourself getting aggressive and nasty. It's like it's not you, that is the person you want to be and who you want to see you.
But even the part that jumps out sometimes you are - even if a part that you do not appreciate, and you do not understand.
We all have different parts within us. It is absolutely as it should. The more contact we have with our different subpersonalities the better and the easier it will be for us. We do not know our different personalities, they live their own life just as you describe. We may find that we suddenly gets taken over by something we do not recognize.
It's a part of you that becomes extremely riled up when you face injustice, when things do not turn out as you intended, or a professional person doing wrong. Then pull the unpleasant started and want to educate and bring order.
Who is this that you react? To be able to deal with your concern, it is good if you can get to know this part of yourself that you would rather shunned. But then happens the opposite, namely, that it really lives its own life and rule the roost in a way that you do not like.
So who is this part of you that goes off at these times? Have you been the victim of injustice as a child? Do you need a lot of control? How do you feel within yourself before you react with anger?
Try to capture the emotion and understand you based on it. It is the clue that leads further and deepen insights into the angry part of you.
Another thing you can think about is where that part goes when the anger subsided. Maybe you can be in contact with it right now and understand its motivations, function and purpose. Who is she who wants to bring order and do it with anger and aggression?
Good luck whit your journey.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
2016-01-13
2016-01-12
Wisdom words and quotes of: Good philosophy to live by, and a fine life advice to follow is ....
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| You should treat others, as you want to be treated yourself |
Always remember that: You should treat others, as you want to be treated yourself.
Plus do nothing against anyone. As you do not want to encounter, and that you did not want to get expose to you, and you do not want to happen to yourself in the end.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-01-11
2016-01-08
2016-01-07
How do I find my life goals and meaning of my life, and how can I return to my own spark of life, and finding my own life goals again?
Hello
I have gone astray and lost me completely coherent in my life, and I can not find my live goals now.
I do not know what the meaning of my life is, and what I want to do anymore in and with my life.
I go mostly around in circles, and nothing made any sense more for me.
I hope you have some good advice to give me. About how I come out of this, and get back my zest for life, and find my own purposes for and in my life again.
Thanks in advance for your help and your always good and very wise advices.
Mirjam
Hi Miriam
Every normal person has these thoughts, and everyone feels that way at some time, or several times during their lifetime.
A good way to find out and overcome the dept that is the most important thing in one's life. Is to settle down somewhere where it's really calm and quiet.
Thought Exercise No. 1
Then you can begin to think like this:
You imagine that you are on your way to a funeral. When you come to the funeral and seeing all the people who are there. Then you see that all your work colleagues, friends, and family are all gathered there.
When you get to the coffin, you discover that it is you who is there in the coffin now.
Then you sit down in amongst all those others who have gathered there.
When you are reading the program sheet for the funeral. Do you see that there are several speakers who will talk about. How you were as a family member, friend, and colleague, etc.
Now think of what you think them will say about you today? And when those different people will give for kind of a speech about you. About how you were as a person and what you have done for them and so on.
After this you can think about what you want them different persons instead would hold a speech about you, and what you have meant to them and done for them etc?
Things that's you want them to say about you at your funeral. Are there things that are genuinely and absolutely most important and fundamental for you in your life, and you should aim to try to reach them before your own funeral taking place.
What you are up to the here and now. Will be those overall life goals in your life, and you should live by them in the future.
Thought Exercise No. 2
Now you can do the above mental exercise. But now change the time format. That you have only 24 hours to live before you die. What are the most important people for you, and what you like to have done before you die?
Then you can make the same mental exercise. But, think about what you're going to do, if you would only live a week, a month or a year?
These different mental exercises and expriment with different time horizons. Giving you the answer to how different things are important to you, and how you should be able to prioritize between the different things, and those times when you do not have time for everything in your life.
If none of the above given exercises will help you.
Then you can contact a teraput who is expert in logo therapy. This is because they are especially focused on helping adder people who are just looking for there own purpose of their lives.
Or you can write direkt to me here, and receive private personal and individual existential life advice for you.
Would this not help you. You should contact a psychologist reception. Where you can then get a more complete investigation of your problems, and if you perhaps can eventually suffer from a temporary mental illness, and which now lets you have lost the zest for your life and your purpose in your life.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
I have gone astray and lost me completely coherent in my life, and I can not find my live goals now.
I do not know what the meaning of my life is, and what I want to do anymore in and with my life.
I go mostly around in circles, and nothing made any sense more for me.
I hope you have some good advice to give me. About how I come out of this, and get back my zest for life, and find my own purposes for and in my life again.
Thanks in advance for your help and your always good and very wise advices.
Mirjam
Hi Miriam
Every normal person has these thoughts, and everyone feels that way at some time, or several times during their lifetime.
A good way to find out and overcome the dept that is the most important thing in one's life. Is to settle down somewhere where it's really calm and quiet.
Thought Exercise No. 1
Then you can begin to think like this:
You imagine that you are on your way to a funeral. When you come to the funeral and seeing all the people who are there. Then you see that all your work colleagues, friends, and family are all gathered there.
When you get to the coffin, you discover that it is you who is there in the coffin now.
Then you sit down in amongst all those others who have gathered there.
When you are reading the program sheet for the funeral. Do you see that there are several speakers who will talk about. How you were as a family member, friend, and colleague, etc.
Now think of what you think them will say about you today? And when those different people will give for kind of a speech about you. About how you were as a person and what you have done for them and so on.
After this you can think about what you want them different persons instead would hold a speech about you, and what you have meant to them and done for them etc?
Things that's you want them to say about you at your funeral. Are there things that are genuinely and absolutely most important and fundamental for you in your life, and you should aim to try to reach them before your own funeral taking place.
What you are up to the here and now. Will be those overall life goals in your life, and you should live by them in the future.
Thought Exercise No. 2
Now you can do the above mental exercise. But now change the time format. That you have only 24 hours to live before you die. What are the most important people for you, and what you like to have done before you die?
Then you can make the same mental exercise. But, think about what you're going to do, if you would only live a week, a month or a year?
These different mental exercises and expriment with different time horizons. Giving you the answer to how different things are important to you, and how you should be able to prioritize between the different things, and those times when you do not have time for everything in your life.
If none of the above given exercises will help you.
Then you can contact a teraput who is expert in logo therapy. This is because they are especially focused on helping adder people who are just looking for there own purpose of their lives.
Or you can write direkt to me here, and receive private personal and individual existential life advice for you.
Would this not help you. You should contact a psychologist reception. Where you can then get a more complete investigation of your problems, and if you perhaps can eventually suffer from a temporary mental illness, and which now lets you have lost the zest for your life and your purpose in your life.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can follow me the Author and Writer about Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage on my various social media channels here.
2016-01-06
2016-01-05
#Lyrics #poetry #poem and #verse of:: About Happy New Year
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| Lyrics, poetry, poem and verse of: About Happy New Year |
About Happy New Year
The past year is over
and a new year begins.
The last year was a good year
and the new year will be exciting.
Last year's challenges were interesting
and the new year opportunities will also be very interesting.
And only those who live their lives to the fullest
will see what the new year has to offer us.
Live your life to the fullest every year of your life
and like every year was the last year of your life.
For the years that have passed in your life
will never ever return to you.
And every year of your life offers you new challenges
and with brand new good opportunity for you.
Wish all the best to you my friends at the New Year!
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-01-04
2016-01-02
The Piff and Puff from the #christmas tree is out and #traing at #newyear day.
The Piff and Puff from the #christmas tree is out and #traing at #newyear day. via Instagram by Author / Writer: Mental Health and Life Coach Therapist Mr Chris Savage
2016-01-01
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