2016-10-31
2016-10-28
2016-10-27
How can I find a inner peace in me and with my self, and at my life?
Hi coach
I realize that I have to start over and I need to find myself. Would like to go into myself and become enlightened, feel the spirit or God in me or just ... well, find peace and find myself. How should I do?
Should I eat something special? Know that many Buddhists eat very little and fast to find its interior. I want to learn to meditate but how do I start? Should I go for long walks in nature or visit a church to find the soul or?
I need your advice! How will I become calm, feeling good, travel within myself and feel the community with the world? All tips are welcome but I'm already a bit inside the meditation and yoga, I think. Something that also gives me energy! Should I surround myself of plants, incense and stones?
I am hopeful and grateful for your help and your response to my question here about how to find inner peace in me.
August
Hi August
You can be whatever you requires you to be!
Many believe that change is impossible, others take it for granted. Life shapes us through the years so arises easily stagnation so well thought action. We believe we often know best, but see everything as more often than not with clear eyes on ourselves. However, we are very quick to find flaws in others. Self-reflection becomes scarce.
If we are to improve our physical condition as this is done preferably by that we start exercising regularly and methodically. In the long term so improved our results and we must take advantage of our personal commitment. Why should it be different with our personal inner development, of course, we can use similar methods to achieve mental and physical health! But this is often our eternal self-defense in which says to us that it is either not possible or that nothing should be done!
Somewhere calling hopefully finally a warning bell that makes us awake and with a self-reflective smile might be able to laugh at ourselves, our personal problems, our shortcomings ... this might actually be a good start for change.
Why not come to self-awareness and courage to let go and start physical exercise your senses in the same way as you exercise your muscles and your body!
Mental health - to see the whole picture!
As a human, you have a free will to choose! You can choose how you deal with certain situations that occur, if you should interpret these positive, neutral or negative, if you want to expose yourself to them again or not! In the same way it is with how you look at yourself! You can actually choose whether you want to create confidence in yourself, create self-love and build a good self-esteem, or if you want to see more of yourself based on all the problems that you experience and that creates restrictions in your personality.
Several factors have been shown to affect your mental health: good diet and nutrition, and active physical exercise affects how you feel and indirectly your psyche, this is scientifically proven! Diseases also affect your psyche. Depression is almost twice as common in women than men, why? poor sleep, stress, imbalance in the hormone system also affects our personality, such as dopamine and serotonin are two important hormones for our well being.
Your personality also influences how you feel! Your personal preferences, your genes, including social factors are involved in shaping your personality. You have a personality, but you can also change your personality, it evolves all the time, depending on your experience and how you interact with your surroundings! By learning how to manage your thoughts can you practically actually change you and achieve better health!
Self-esteem! Decide to enjoy yourself! See your benefits! Release fear!
Many spiritual and religious traditions also believe that we consist of a deeper form of I of more eternal nature (the divine nature). This eternal I have many names, depending on the religious and spiritual school: the self, the soul, spirit soul, our inner eternal self, etc. In many developing personality teachings refers to this more divine inner self in personal development, in contrast to our outer ego that would correspond to the more changeable personality! Whatever you think about it, there are several practical methods readily available to achieve better psychological and mental health.
To begin to observe and understand your thoughts and practical use various methods to change your thinking is the key to better mental and physical health. If you are interested in learning more about different methods for active change management, you can use the methods described here: CBT - cognitive behavioral therapy, Mindfulness, Visualization, Affirmations, yoga, meditation, breathing exercises and mental training.
Thoughts that habit patterns!
95% percent of all the decisions we take, we do out of habit and without reflection. Ie only 5% of our decisions are fully aware! This according axiologerna studying how we think. According to them, they think you and I are about 40,000 thoughts per day! and there are more than 15 million different thought patterns! By learning to understand your thought patterns and even dare to change those who are not well aware, you have much of a success! By becoming more aware of your thoughts, you can also learn how to check different situations better, take the right decisions and develop to your full potential!
How are you thinking? What choices do you do in different situations? Do you think, and often feel the same way in similar situations? Have you changed your mind, depending on the different experiences? Do you often think negatively? How do you keep the negative thoughts away? you can see something positive in what may appear to be negative? Would another person interpret the situation differently? Are you willing to change you?
Resistance and habits!
At work, in social relationships, in practice, well in almost any context, it is some form of exercise, exercise, exercise, first of all to achieve good results as the knowledge, understanding and balance. When knowledge is acquired then, however, it significantly easier to maintain and improve the knowledge! Why should it be different with the mental and psychological health?
Resistance and failure really gives great opportunities for awakening and change, so although it may seem difficult with the potential to add value to you in the long run by creating insight and opportunity for change.
When are you comfortable! Can you do something different! What can you learn from your mistakes? How does your love out? When are you most selfish? Lets you often emotions control you? Have you tried to use your mind more conscious in a recurring situation successfully? Are you willing to work more actively with your psyche?
If you think you can not handle your undertakings. What are the chances that you fail, do you think?
Change your management!
Your environment affects you, and your life has influenced you so far! But the biggest reason for the way you feel affects you actually yourself! This is by humbly begin to learn to understand how you function as a person, how you think, feel and act, why it is as it is right now! which together will hopefully lead to the conclusion that you start your own change!
We are all pretty lost, scared and feel often unsuccessful in many situations. There is really nothing strange about that, because we're very similar, deep down, as you or I are not alone, and you do not take your failure as serious, but can choose to see them as lessons and input to something you can change the that you simply think it's time to move on ... and it is glorious with all change is that you will fall down and do a reboot now and then, such is life ...
You are the center of your own life and no one else! You are free to think and feel what you want!
Are you willing to start exercising your mental and psychic abilities regularly now? Read more about it next week here.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I realize that I have to start over and I need to find myself. Would like to go into myself and become enlightened, feel the spirit or God in me or just ... well, find peace and find myself. How should I do?
Should I eat something special? Know that many Buddhists eat very little and fast to find its interior. I want to learn to meditate but how do I start? Should I go for long walks in nature or visit a church to find the soul or?
I need your advice! How will I become calm, feeling good, travel within myself and feel the community with the world? All tips are welcome but I'm already a bit inside the meditation and yoga, I think. Something that also gives me energy! Should I surround myself of plants, incense and stones?
I am hopeful and grateful for your help and your response to my question here about how to find inner peace in me.
August
Hi August
You can be whatever you requires you to be!
Many believe that change is impossible, others take it for granted. Life shapes us through the years so arises easily stagnation so well thought action. We believe we often know best, but see everything as more often than not with clear eyes on ourselves. However, we are very quick to find flaws in others. Self-reflection becomes scarce.
If we are to improve our physical condition as this is done preferably by that we start exercising regularly and methodically. In the long term so improved our results and we must take advantage of our personal commitment. Why should it be different with our personal inner development, of course, we can use similar methods to achieve mental and physical health! But this is often our eternal self-defense in which says to us that it is either not possible or that nothing should be done!
Somewhere calling hopefully finally a warning bell that makes us awake and with a self-reflective smile might be able to laugh at ourselves, our personal problems, our shortcomings ... this might actually be a good start for change.
Why not come to self-awareness and courage to let go and start physical exercise your senses in the same way as you exercise your muscles and your body!
Mental health - to see the whole picture!
As a human, you have a free will to choose! You can choose how you deal with certain situations that occur, if you should interpret these positive, neutral or negative, if you want to expose yourself to them again or not! In the same way it is with how you look at yourself! You can actually choose whether you want to create confidence in yourself, create self-love and build a good self-esteem, or if you want to see more of yourself based on all the problems that you experience and that creates restrictions in your personality.
Several factors have been shown to affect your mental health: good diet and nutrition, and active physical exercise affects how you feel and indirectly your psyche, this is scientifically proven! Diseases also affect your psyche. Depression is almost twice as common in women than men, why? poor sleep, stress, imbalance in the hormone system also affects our personality, such as dopamine and serotonin are two important hormones for our well being.
Your personality also influences how you feel! Your personal preferences, your genes, including social factors are involved in shaping your personality. You have a personality, but you can also change your personality, it evolves all the time, depending on your experience and how you interact with your surroundings! By learning how to manage your thoughts can you practically actually change you and achieve better health!
Self-esteem! Decide to enjoy yourself! See your benefits! Release fear!
Many spiritual and religious traditions also believe that we consist of a deeper form of I of more eternal nature (the divine nature). This eternal I have many names, depending on the religious and spiritual school: the self, the soul, spirit soul, our inner eternal self, etc. In many developing personality teachings refers to this more divine inner self in personal development, in contrast to our outer ego that would correspond to the more changeable personality! Whatever you think about it, there are several practical methods readily available to achieve better psychological and mental health.
To begin to observe and understand your thoughts and practical use various methods to change your thinking is the key to better mental and physical health. If you are interested in learning more about different methods for active change management, you can use the methods described here: CBT - cognitive behavioral therapy, Mindfulness, Visualization, Affirmations, yoga, meditation, breathing exercises and mental training.
Thoughts that habit patterns!
95% percent of all the decisions we take, we do out of habit and without reflection. Ie only 5% of our decisions are fully aware! This according axiologerna studying how we think. According to them, they think you and I are about 40,000 thoughts per day! and there are more than 15 million different thought patterns! By learning to understand your thought patterns and even dare to change those who are not well aware, you have much of a success! By becoming more aware of your thoughts, you can also learn how to check different situations better, take the right decisions and develop to your full potential!
How are you thinking? What choices do you do in different situations? Do you think, and often feel the same way in similar situations? Have you changed your mind, depending on the different experiences? Do you often think negatively? How do you keep the negative thoughts away? you can see something positive in what may appear to be negative? Would another person interpret the situation differently? Are you willing to change you?
Resistance and habits!
At work, in social relationships, in practice, well in almost any context, it is some form of exercise, exercise, exercise, first of all to achieve good results as the knowledge, understanding and balance. When knowledge is acquired then, however, it significantly easier to maintain and improve the knowledge! Why should it be different with the mental and psychological health?
Resistance and failure really gives great opportunities for awakening and change, so although it may seem difficult with the potential to add value to you in the long run by creating insight and opportunity for change.
When are you comfortable! Can you do something different! What can you learn from your mistakes? How does your love out? When are you most selfish? Lets you often emotions control you? Have you tried to use your mind more conscious in a recurring situation successfully? Are you willing to work more actively with your psyche?
If you think you can not handle your undertakings. What are the chances that you fail, do you think?
Change your management!
Your environment affects you, and your life has influenced you so far! But the biggest reason for the way you feel affects you actually yourself! This is by humbly begin to learn to understand how you function as a person, how you think, feel and act, why it is as it is right now! which together will hopefully lead to the conclusion that you start your own change!
We are all pretty lost, scared and feel often unsuccessful in many situations. There is really nothing strange about that, because we're very similar, deep down, as you or I are not alone, and you do not take your failure as serious, but can choose to see them as lessons and input to something you can change the that you simply think it's time to move on ... and it is glorious with all change is that you will fall down and do a reboot now and then, such is life ...
You are the center of your own life and no one else! You are free to think and feel what you want!
Are you willing to start exercising your mental and psychic abilities regularly now? Read more about it next week here.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-10-26
2016-10-25
Wisdom words and quotes of: Only dead fish follow the water stream
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Only dead fish follow the water stream |
Wisdom words and quotes of:
Only dead fish follow the water stream.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-10-24
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2016-10-20
8 tips on how you can deal with performance anxiety easy
- Write down a small list of what you are most pleased with in yourself.
- Take for you when others give you praise or say positive things about you.
- Ask yourself every day: What did I do today that I can feel satisfied with?
- If you think negative thoughts: Stop and think if they can look at things from another more positive point of view.
- Do not compare yourself with others. We are all different good at different things. We also talk differently about what we do, how much we are studying, practicing, and how we feel - some adding and subtracting. It is almost impossible to see the whole picture of another man, and impossible to know what actually is "true".
- Think what you want.
- Dare to make mistakes. Think of it as the opportunity to practice what is difficult: What went wrong and what can I learn for next time? I was able to influence the situation, or was it the circumstances that were beyond my control?
- Drop the idea of being perfect. Who is it that decides what is perfect or not?
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2016-10-19
2016-10-18
Wisdom words and quotes of: Treat others as you want to be treated
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| Treat others as you want to be treated |
Treat others as you want to be treated.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-10-17
2016-10-14
2016-10-13
I have performance anxiety, and what can I do about it?
Hello Mr. life coach
I have all my life been difficult to perform when I feel I have expectations of me, both from others and myself. Therefore, my background has become very jittery.
I can handle most situations well and gets good reviews from the environment, good grades from school and employers, etc., but I always come to a point where I feel that it is becoming increasingly difficult to feel that what I do is good enough and everything feels overwhelming. The feelings do I become paralyzed, I can no longer perform that I ever managed. I begin to think illogically can not draw the right conclusions, feeling totally ignorant. Since I do not take me past this will I have, to survive with honor intact, to change tracks in life, to start over. But the older I get the whole thing becomes increasingly difficult.
Now I stand for the second time in my life with a nearly completed training and can not handle the last moment, despite all earlier gone great and I always been among the best in class. Furthermore, I am newly married and are afraid this will ruin our relationship and our life together. Since I have no income right now, I can not pay for an expensive treatment with a psychologist. I do not know how I should proceed?
Hoping for help from you Mr. life coach!
Anja
Hi Anja
Performance anxiety is fear of failure or fear that you should not fail to live up to their own or others' expectations. It does not count as a psychiatric diagnosis, but one can still feel mentally bad if you have performance anxiety.
When you have performance anxiety you feel afraid to be reviewed and assessed and then being caught by not being good enough. You feel too afraid of being humiliated if it would happen.
Performance anxiety is a feeling and is very rarely linked to the one actually performs. There are few who actually perform worse for their performance anxiety. It's usually about how you yourself perceive and evaluate their performance. Man stuck in negative thinking, rehashing and disparage the achievement gained and find it difficult to feel happy and proud of what you do. A person who has performance anxiety often sets high standards for himself and his accomplishments. Many are perfectionists.
Situations when you can have performance anxiety may include:
Sometimes performance anxiety actually be a positive thing. It can make you that collects and prepares more so that you really manage to perform better.
There are several things that characterize performance anxiety:
One way to get help is to contact the school counselor or a youth. Often, some supportive calls help. They can often provide good advice on how to do and think in order to manage their performance anxiety.
You do not have access to this above. Then you turn to any life coach like me here, and to get private consultation and advisory therapy for your performance anxiety.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
I have all my life been difficult to perform when I feel I have expectations of me, both from others and myself. Therefore, my background has become very jittery.
I can handle most situations well and gets good reviews from the environment, good grades from school and employers, etc., but I always come to a point where I feel that it is becoming increasingly difficult to feel that what I do is good enough and everything feels overwhelming. The feelings do I become paralyzed, I can no longer perform that I ever managed. I begin to think illogically can not draw the right conclusions, feeling totally ignorant. Since I do not take me past this will I have, to survive with honor intact, to change tracks in life, to start over. But the older I get the whole thing becomes increasingly difficult.
Now I stand for the second time in my life with a nearly completed training and can not handle the last moment, despite all earlier gone great and I always been among the best in class. Furthermore, I am newly married and are afraid this will ruin our relationship and our life together. Since I have no income right now, I can not pay for an expensive treatment with a psychologist. I do not know how I should proceed?
Hoping for help from you Mr. life coach!
Anja
Hi Anja
Performance anxiety is fear of failure or fear that you should not fail to live up to their own or others' expectations. It does not count as a psychiatric diagnosis, but one can still feel mentally bad if you have performance anxiety.
When you have performance anxiety you feel afraid to be reviewed and assessed and then being caught by not being good enough. You feel too afraid of being humiliated if it would happen.
Performance anxiety is a feeling and is very rarely linked to the one actually performs. There are few who actually perform worse for their performance anxiety. It's usually about how you yourself perceive and evaluate their performance. Man stuck in negative thinking, rehashing and disparage the achievement gained and find it difficult to feel happy and proud of what you do. A person who has performance anxiety often sets high standards for himself and his accomplishments. Many are perfectionists.
Situations when you can have performance anxiety may include:
- Before the tests or presentations in schools
- When writing an essay or similar
- In connection with such music, dance or theater performances
- When athletes, for example for competitions and matches
- In situations when you must show itself, for example, to have sex.
Sometimes performance anxiety actually be a positive thing. It can make you that collects and prepares more so that you really manage to perform better.
There are several things that characterize performance anxiety:
- The body reacts. One can, for example, palpitations, increased heart rate, sweating, trembling, knowing that you have difficulty breathing, feel nausea or panic feelings.
- Negative and exaggerated thoughts of failure and evaluated negatively by others. The tanks are available before, during and after the situation in which a performance.
- Anticipation Anxiety before situations where you need to perform. It conjures up many possible negative scenarios of how bad it will get.
- Ältande the situation when you have achieved something. One can dwell long afterwards and get anguished thoughts on how to be perceived. The negative thoughts weighed seldom or never by positive thoughts.
- Avoid situations that evoke anxiety and fear. It may feel good for the moment, but do you never get to try their abilities or learn to manage anxiety. Then comes the fear, and the strong fantasies of horror scenarios remain. This may in turn lead to begin avoiding more and more situations and thus be limited in life and existence.
Support and help
It is natural to feel some anxiety, fear or anxiety in situations when to perform, for example, for a test, a presentation or an important game. Often relieves the feelings the more times you expose themselves to situations that feel hard. See our list of tips on what you can do to manage performance anxiety:
But if you have such a strong fear and anxiety that you start avoiding more and more situations and limit themselves in life, you may need to seek support and help. Maybe stay home from school ends meet friends or doing activities that you really enjoy to fear and anxiety take over your thoughts.
One way to get help is to contact the school counselor or a youth. Often, some supportive calls help. They can often provide good advice on how to do and think in order to manage their performance anxiety.
You do not have access to this above. Then you turn to any life coach like me here, and to get private consultation and advisory therapy for your performance anxiety.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-10-12
2016-10-11
Wisdom words and quotes of: Parting is to die a little
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Parting is to die a little |
Parting is to die a little.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-10-10
2016-10-07
2016-10-06
Can I have different roles with different friends, and what different friendship roles can I have?
Hello
Can I have different roles with different friends, and what different friendship roles can I have?
I've thought a lot about this. For it is very different what kind of role I have and when I'm with different friends.
Greeting
Macus
Hi Marcus
What kind of friend are you? And what does that say about you? And these five roles are common in friendships.
The organizer
Planner who keeps track of birthdays, buying gifts, and juggle thousands of little practical details.
If you have this role ...
So you're probably Talented Annika in many contexts and can quite often have chosen the role because you need confirmation from others.
If you tire of the role you will be prepared to miss out on the group's immediate estimate, and the most important thing you can in that case have to do is to learn to be a little more passive.
Little sister
With childlike charm and a certain amount of confusion avoids effectively be the one who takes responsibility.
If you have this role ...
So, it is a subtle matter, you do not have to take responsibility, but will still always be with. In the long run, this is probably still a role that becomes boring. It is one thing to have this role when one is 17 and the youngest in the office. It's not as fun when the 42nd
The entertainer
Constantly a laugh ready, always a pinch of irony in his hand salting of everyday life. The Entertainer is expected to be the one who can always amuse us.
If you have this role ...
Then you have the "job" to ensure that it does not become too tense in the group by diverting attention from the conflict into something playful. Are you even have a little afraid of conflict?
To constantly have this role can ultimately also be perceived as a bit frivolous, because you so rarely show up serious.
The therapist
Listen, lend his shoulder and says, wise, warm things so that the rest of us feel a little better.
If you have this role ...
So are you a person who sees it as important to be caring and helping others. The risk is just that you forget yourself on the road ...
The diplomat
This is a very popular member of the group, with major talents to intercept conflict and to intervene and mediate.
If you have this role ...
So you are often a first-children who have developed a habit in tough negotiations. In the long run, it is a role that has sapped your strength, right here to constantly adapt mediation strategy and not freely express their own opinions. It can make you feel a little fake as a person.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
Can I have different roles with different friends, and what different friendship roles can I have?
I've thought a lot about this. For it is very different what kind of role I have and when I'm with different friends.
Greeting
Macus
Hi Marcus
What kind of friend are you? And what does that say about you? And these five roles are common in friendships.
The organizer
Planner who keeps track of birthdays, buying gifts, and juggle thousands of little practical details.
If you have this role ...
So you're probably Talented Annika in many contexts and can quite often have chosen the role because you need confirmation from others.
If you tire of the role you will be prepared to miss out on the group's immediate estimate, and the most important thing you can in that case have to do is to learn to be a little more passive.
Little sister
With childlike charm and a certain amount of confusion avoids effectively be the one who takes responsibility.
If you have this role ...
So, it is a subtle matter, you do not have to take responsibility, but will still always be with. In the long run, this is probably still a role that becomes boring. It is one thing to have this role when one is 17 and the youngest in the office. It's not as fun when the 42nd
The entertainer
Constantly a laugh ready, always a pinch of irony in his hand salting of everyday life. The Entertainer is expected to be the one who can always amuse us.
If you have this role ...
Then you have the "job" to ensure that it does not become too tense in the group by diverting attention from the conflict into something playful. Are you even have a little afraid of conflict?
To constantly have this role can ultimately also be perceived as a bit frivolous, because you so rarely show up serious.
The therapist
Listen, lend his shoulder and says, wise, warm things so that the rest of us feel a little better.
If you have this role ...
So are you a person who sees it as important to be caring and helping others. The risk is just that you forget yourself on the road ...
The diplomat
This is a very popular member of the group, with major talents to intercept conflict and to intervene and mediate.
If you have this role ...
So you are often a first-children who have developed a habit in tough negotiations. In the long run, it is a role that has sapped your strength, right here to constantly adapt mediation strategy and not freely express their own opinions. It can make you feel a little fake as a person.
You can ask and send in your questions to me here! And You can also follow me the Mr Chris Savage as Mental Health Life Coach Therapist and Artist, Author, Photographer, Writer on my various social media channels here.
2016-10-05
2016-10-04
Wisdom words and quotes of: Of the damage you become wise
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| Wisdom words and quotes of: Of the damage you become wise |
Of the damage you become wise.
By author / writer Mr Chris Savage
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2016-10-03
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